Why do you support the Phi Delta Theta Foundation?

The Foundation supports critical programs, scholarships, and so much more. I want to ensure those opportunities continue for decades to come so others can take my place to sustain them long after I’m gone.

Why do you think the Fraternity is still relevant today?

Social connections and support are more relevant today than ever before. I would argue that this was proven even more true during the pandemic. Fraternity creates a sense of belonging and purpose to support each other and our communities.

What advice do you have for current students?

Always be willing to learn. Stretch yourself and take the risk. Don’t take the job just for the money—take it for the opportunity to grow and learn.

Matthew was born and raised in Northern California. He graduated from Sonoma State University in 2003 with a BA in English. After graduation, Matthew’s goal was to teach high school; however, he ended up in a training and development role for a home warranty company based in Santa Rosa, California. Over the past twenty years, Matthew has held various training and development leadership roles. He returned to Sonoma State in 2014 and earned his MBA in 2016. He is the global training operations manager for First American Home Warranty, overseeing training operations for our onshore employees and offshore contract staff in Kenya, the Dominican Republic, El Salvador, and Guatemala. Matthew is an avid traveler, having sailed on over twenty cruises, and can speak basic French, Spanish, and Italian.

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David Amber, McGill ’93

Role: Olympic reporter

Contribution: Prior to his renowned work at ESPN, David Amber served as a reporter for two Olympic Games while working with TSN in Toronto. During this time, David also anchored and reported during during several World Series, Stanley Cup Finals, and NBA Finals.

Gary Bender, Wichita State ’62

Role: Sportscaster covering the Olympics

Contribution: After leaving CBS in June of 1987, Gary joined ABC as a play-by-play announcer.  His assignments included coverage of the 1988 Winter Olympics in Calgary.  While in Calgary he described the tragic falls of Dan Jansen in speed skating. Gary’s assignments also covered the MLB, NBA, and NCAA football.

Michael Callahan, Washington ’96

Role: Olympic rowing

Contribution: Michael Callahan won a gold medal at the 1992 World Rowing Championships in the Junior Men’s Eight in Montreal. After graduation, Callahan joined the U.S. Men’s National Team, winning a bronze medal in the 1995 Under-23 Nations Cup Regatta, followed by a gold medal at the 1996 Under-23 Nations Cup Regatta. He stroked three U.S. National Team boats at the World Championships between 1997 and 2002. Callahan was a medalist at the 1999 Pan-American Games and 2000 World Rowing Cup, and a member of the 2004 U.S. Olympic Rowing Team.

Dwight Davis, Washington 1899

Role: Olympic tennis

Contribution: Davis was a member of the US team that won the first two competitions in 1900 and 1902, and was also the captain of the 1900 team. He also participated in the 1904 Summer Olympics.

Scott Fortune, Stanford ’89

Role: Olympic volleyball player

Contribution: Scott Fortune joined the U.S. national team in 1986. He was a member of the gold medal winning team at the 1988 Summer Olympics. In 1991, he was named the USOC Male Volleyball Athlete of the Year. He won the best passer and best digger awards at that year’s World League. At the 1992 Summer Olympics, Fortune was named best digger and helped the U.S. win the bronze medal. He also played in the 1996 Summer Olympics.

James A. Gordon, Miami ’31

Role: Olympic track and field

Contribution: James A. Gordon was the first Miamian to participate in the Olympics. He was a finalist in the 400-meters in the Olympic Games held in Los Angeles in 1932. His best time in the 440-meter was clocked in at 47.8 seconds. 

Willie Geist, Vanderbilt ’97

Role: Olympic reporter

Contribution: Geist has covered multiple Olympics for NBC News Network and will continue his work during the 2024 Paris Olympic Games.

Charlie Hickcox, Indiana ‘69

Role: Olympic swimmer

Contribution: Charles Hickcox was an American competition swimmer, three-time Olympic champion and former world record-holder in six events. The peak of Hickcox’s swimming career occurred between 1967 and 1968 when he set eight world records in the space of sixteen months.

Tom Harmon, Michigan ’41

Role: Olympic commentator

Contribution: After his Heisman-winning professional career, Tom reported live on major sporting events from the Olympics to the Rose Bowl for networks such as CBS, ABC, and NBC, totaling over 10,000 broadcasts.

David Jenkins, Case Western Revere ’63

Role: Olympic figure skater

Contribution: David Jenkins won first bronze medal at the 1956 Olympic games. His brother also won the gold that year. David came back to the Olympics in 1960 and went on to win the gold medal at the Winter Olympics.

Blane Lindgren, Utah ’62

Role: Olympic track and field

Contribution: Blane competed in the 110 m hurdles for the Olympic games, and in 1964 he received the silver medal in Tokyo.

Billy Payne, Georgia ’69

Role: Head of the 1996 Olympic Games committee

Contribution: As the head of the Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games, Billy successfully convinced international leaders and sponsors to support the bid to bring the Olympics to Atlanta, Georgia. His efforts were said to be instrumental in shaping the modern Olympic landscape and highlighting the city of Atlanta on a global stage​.

Doug Russell, UT Arlington ’70

Role: Olympic swimmer

Contribution: Doug Russell has two Olympic gold medals to his name. In 1968 he raced in the inaugural 100 Meter Butterfly event at the Olympics held in Mexico City, Mexico. Edging out the event favorite and teammate Mark Spitz, Doug led the way to a USA sweep in the inaugural event. He took home another gold medal in the same Olympics Games swimming the butterfly leg in the 4X100 Meter Medley Relay.

Kenny Selmon, UNC-Chapel Hill ’18

Role: Olympic track and field

Contribution: In 2014, Kenny made his first USA team, where he competed in the 400-meter hurdles. After a legendary run as an undergraduate at UNC-Chapel Hill, Kenny represented the United States in the 400-meter hurdles at the Tokyo 2020 Olympics, where he placed ninth.

Detlef Schrempf, Washington ’84

Role: German nation basketball player

Contribution: Detlef played in the Olympics for West Germany in 1984 and the German national team in 1992. One of the most versatile players to ever play in the NBA, Detlef Schrempf’s play on the biggest stage would inspire a generation of players that would model his all-around style.

Bill Toomey, CU Bolder ’61

Role: Olympic decathlete

Contribution: Bill Toomey won the gold medal in the decathlon at the 1968 Olympics, showcasing his versatility and endurance across ten track and field events. The title of World’s Greatest Athlete has been given to the person who wins the Olympic Decathlon. Bill Toomey would win an astounding twenty-three of the thirty-eight decathlons in which he competed.

Robie Vaughn, UT Austin ’78

Role: Olympic skeleton sledder

Contribution: Robie Vaughn’s dedication to the sport of skeleton was crucial in its inclusion in the 2002 Winter Olympics. As both an athlete and organizer, Vaughn lobbied the International Olympic Committee and other governing bodies to bring skeleton back to the Olympic program.

Wayne Wells, Oklahoma ’69

Role: Olympic wrestling

Contribution: Wayne Wells placed fourth at the 1968 Olympic Games, and after taking time away from the sport to finish law school, he earned a gold medal in freestyle wrestling in the welterweight class in 1972. Wayne Wells also is the first-ever Nike signature athlete!

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As we gather with family and friends this holiday season before the new year, Phi Delta Theta has another reason to celebrate. This year marks 175 years since the founding of our Fraternity, and just days ago, we celebrated this milestone. 

Our founders met on December 26, 1848, in Old North Dorm on the campus of Miami University in Oxford, Ohio, to discuss the creation of our great Fraternity. However, many may forget to note that it was on this day, December 30, that The Bond was finalized. The Immortal Six affixed their signatures to that timeless document, setting a remarkable tradition into motion that every Phi has carried forward since. 

Today marks the official promise that Robert Morrison, John McMillan Wilson, John Wolfle Lindley, Robert Thompson Drake, Ardivan Walker Rodgers, and Andrew Watts Rogers sought to create by forming an organization of like-minded men guided by three Cardinal Principles: Friendship, Sound Learning, and Rectitude.

Though the founders felt that the basis of their union was sound, there was some question in the early days about whether it would endure and expand. The second chapter was founded almost a year later, on October 11, 1849, at Indiana University. Seven members attended the first convention in 1851 in Cincinnati, Ohio. In just ten years, Phi Delta Theta had expanded to twelve campuses in Ohio, Indiana, Kentucky, Texas, Wisconsin, and Illinois. 

Despite the challenges our Fraternity faced during the US Civil War, when Phi Delta Theta was left with only four active chapters, our brothers persisted with fortitude. Between 1870 and 1890, our brotherhood saw rapid and significant growth due in large part to the efforts of Walter B. Palmer and George Banta. Unofficially termed as the Fraternity’s Second Founders, these two men created a more formal structure to organize and govern the Fraternity, laying the foundation for how we operate today.

Guided by The Bond and our Cardinal Principles, Palmer and Banta paved the way for the Fraternity to evolve in the twentieth century and beyond. That approach has enabled Phi Delta Theta to grow in size, strength, and stature, earning our place as the premier leadership society throughout the United States and Canada. Phi Delta Theta became an international fraternity when our first Canadian chapter, Quebec Alpha, was established at McGill University in Montreal, Quebec in April 1902.

Fast forward to this biennium, where we continue to honor our founders’ legacy. To date, over 288,000 Phis have signed The Bond — the exact same document that has remained unchanged since our founders adopted it 175 years ago. And in our 175th year, we plan to install our 300th chapter.

Phi Delta Theta boasts many prominent members from campuses across North America throughout the years, including a Phi who walked on the moon, a US president and other elected leaders, titans of industry, athletes, and notable entertainers. However, I believe the special bond of brotherhood that we all share and the positive impact we make on the world possesses the most value.

On that cold, gloomy winter day in late December 1848, it is uncertain that our founders could fully envision what Phi Delta Theta would become. However, their vision successfully provided a solid foundation to sustain our organization, guide us as we progress, and, most importantly, strengthen our bonds of brotherhood through the precepts outlined in The Bond. 

Looking ahead as we enter into a new year, I challenge all of us to reflect upon our contributions to the Fraternity and our communities. We must remember that we have inherited a special gift from all those Phis who have come before us over the past 175 years. Our duty is to protect that legacy, honor and uphold the commitments we made, and continually strive to become the greatest versions of ourselves.

Proud to be a Phi!

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On February 13, 2023, Brian Fraser tragically lost his life to a senseless act of violence. Brian served as the Michigan State Phi Delta Theta Chapter President. As the leader of the Michigan Beta Chapter, Brian was a great friend to his Phi Delt brothers, the Greek community at Michigan State, and those he interacted with on campus. His fellow chapter brothers spent time recognizing the impact Brian had on their lives:

Brian, I first met you in the eighth grade at St. Paul. You were the first new friend I made there. I remember you sat at the allergy table, introduced yourself, and shook my hand. I was nervous about being in a new school, and you made me feel so welcomed and comfortable when you could’ve just ignored me like some of the other kids. After getting to know you that year, Brian, you became one of my closest friends. We were inseparable throughout high school. Whether it be car rides, watching sports, playing video games, or whatever we did on the weekend, you were always there by my side. Every Sunday night after you got your license, you would pick me up from my house to get smoothies. We would drive up and down the lake jamming out to music and talking about anything that came to our minds. Along one of the countless car rides we took with one another, we decided to be roommates if we decided to go to the same college. Both our choices ended up being MSU, and before you knew it, the guy I met at the allergy table in eighth grade was my roommate at college. We were so excited to start our college journeys together. It was the most exciting time of my life. During our time as roommates, we spent virtually all of our time together. If I wasn’t at class, I was with you, Brian. We grew so close to one another during our time as roommates that it felt like we were more family than friends. We knew we wanted to join a fraternity, and Phi Delt was the first house we went to during recruitment. The second we walked through the doors of 626, the men of Phi Delta Theta greeted us with kindness and respect. During our time in the Fraternity, you matured into an amazing leader and an even more amazing person. You were elected president of our chapter unanimously. Brian, you touched my life in ways I cannot even explain. You are my rock, my best bud. If I ever needed anything, I knew you would come through for me. No matter where we went or what we were doing, as long as you were there, I knew it would be fine. You had the greatest smile in the world, and you worked hard for it. Those pearly whites didn’t come for free. Many methods were done to perfect those things, I saw it first hand, you name a teeth whitening method, and Brian did it. It made your smile so special, though. You lit any room you walked into, and it was so contagious. You always showed so much joy and would not accept it if we weren’t doing the same. Brian, you were such a bright light and brought happiness to an unbelievable amount of people. Everyone needs a best friend in their life, and I can’t explain how honored I am to be able to call Brian mine. You were the best friend I could have ever wanted, exactly the person I needed. The tears now are only temporary, but the memories we made, the conversations we had, and the bond that we shared, will live on in my heart forever. I can’t explain how thankful I am for you, Brian.

Brian has been my friend since the fourth grade when we would play each other in Little League games. It started with talking and getting concessions after our baseball games. When we were older, we would go on drives and sing our favorite songs, talk about our lives, giving each other advice. He was a brother to me, and he was my best friend. We would attend numerous sporting events together and cheer on our favorite sports teams. We debated what moves we needed to make for the teams to improve. Brian was a year older than me, but he was the older brother that I never had. He would give me advice and lead by example. Brian would make me laugh and smile by cracking jokes or even just walking into the room. Brian was the one who got me to join Phi Delta Theta, as he showed me what true brotherhood was. We were on e-board for the upcoming semesters, and I got lost on what to do. Brian was constantly there giving me feedback and advice. He made sure I was okay. We began to get closer and closer as we shared many classes together. I would visit him in his dorm while waiting for my next class. We would have heated Madden games where it would usually end in him winning. He was always there for me and willing to talk. Brian was not only a friend but my big brother.

Brian, words cannot describe what we are all feeling right now. You never deserved any of this. Such a beautiful young man with so much to offer. I am so blessed to call you a cousin, friend, and little brother. I am beyond proud of your accomplishments and lucky to have known you since the day you were born. From family vacations as a kid to watching you lead within the Fraternity, I’ve been blessed to watch you grow. I’ll never forget how adventurous of a little kid you were, always running around, always so curious, and then you were in college with me. I couldn’t have been happier. I’ll never forget the first chapter meeting when you became president; I was beyond proud to see you lead, not to mention how easy you made it seem, looking like you had been president for years. Just so confident, level-headed, and always on the lookout for everyone else. I love you, Brian. Rest easy. You made the world a better place for us all.

Brian was one of the most genuine guys that I have ever met. There was truly never a dull moment in his presence. He constantly had that big bright smile on his face and never failed to crack a classic awful dad joke we all secretly loved. Brian was my twin within the Fraternity, and that built a special bond between us. He was incredibly dedicated to growing our chapter and always made the extra effort in any circumstance. Brian was one of a kind with such a charming personality. He will always be in our thoughts, and I will cherish the memories we made together forever.

Brian was my brother and my friend. He was a great soul and will forever be of the best guys I have ever met. I learned a lot from him, serving as his vice president. We worked closely together and enjoyed collaborating. He was a smart and funny guy who knew how to lead by example. He was a great well-respected leader; he was very dedicated to our chapter and did everything he could to make us grow and become the greatest version of ourselves. I only met him as a freshman, but he impacted my life and many others. He was a role model to many and made everyone around him a better and brighter person. I know that Michigan Beta will continue to carry on his legacy and make him proud as he did for us. We love you, Brian, and will never forget the impact you had on each and every one of us.

Brian Fraser was one of the kindest, most genuine, hard-working, and most dedicated souls anyone could ever come across. I had only known Brian since we met a little over a year and a half ago as two freshmen who had joined the same Fraternity. Since then, I have gotten to know Brian very well. As president of our Fraternity, he could light up a room with just his presence, and at the same time, he valued everyone’s opinion and thought equally. Everyone loved Brian. As president of our Fraternity, he proved how dedicated he was. From his serious talks to his terrible dad jokes (which were secretly very funny), I loved every second I spent with Brian. He is the type of person everyone should aspire to be. Brian, you will be my brother for life, and there won’t be a second that I won’t miss you. Rest easy, Brian. We all love you.

I only knew Brian for six months, but it felt like an eternity. Brian was an easygoing, genuine guy that deserved more than this. He was such a great guy from the day I met him, and he would always lighten the mood when he walked in with that huge smile. He will forever be someone who taught me so much in such little time. When I first met him at the beginning of this school year, I never thought a friendship would grow so fast. From introducing me to new songs and bringing food back for the game after his shifts, to the really hilarious arguments we would all have for no reason at all, and the laugh I can still hear repeating in my head, there was just so much more that was still left for us to do. He was not only a friend but a brother. He cared so much about everyone in Phi Delta Theta and did his best to create a better chapter, brotherhood, and bond for all of us. I will never forget the memories we had within the last six months. You will be in my thoughts for so long, and the memories will never be forgotten. Words cannot describe my feelings right now. Thanks for making the world a better place. Rest easy. Love you, Brian.

I didn’t know Brian until I came to Michigan State, but he was one of the most genuine people I’ve met, always looking out for others, someone who was inclusive and a brilliant guy. Someone who did make the world a better place, and his actions within Phi Delt were superior. We will always continue your legacy, Brian. I am so grateful to know you, and we miss you always.

I am beyond blessed to get to know Brian as not only a human but as a friend. You always had a smile on your face and were the kindest and most generous person I have ever gotten to know. You will be deeply missed but will cherish in our hearts forever. Love you, Brian. Rest easy, brother.

I have been friends with Brian since I was around three years old. We grew up together, we played sports together, and our families were very close to each other. Every memory I have with him, I will cherish forever. Valentine’s Day will never be the same. Instead, I will spend the day shining a light on the life of my lifelong friend, Brian Fraser. Brian, I can’t even express the pain I am feeling. All I can leave with this message is that I love you, Brian. You and your soul deserve eternal joy, peace, and harmony for all of eternity. You will be deeply remembered in the core of my being, forever. I love you.

I only knew Brian since the beginning of this school year, but in that time, I became close enough with him to learn that he was one of the most genuine and kindhearted people I had met in my life. In countless times being with him, he never had a bad look on his face nor had a reason to. There was no one more I would’ve wanted as our leader, and our Fraternity was in the best hands it possibly could have been. Brian, you were the best brother, president, and friend. You will always be remembered.

I only got to get to know Brian a year and a half ago, and I am such a better person for getting the opportunity. Brian was one of the most genuine and kind kids I have ever met. He was a true friend that was pushing for you to be better and helping you along the way. I am truly honored to have gotten to know you and call you a fraternity brother. You will be remembered in everyone’s lives that you touched. I wish you and your family all of my prayers. Rest easy in heaven, Brian.

Brian Anthony Fraser was a kind, mature young man and an incredible leader who would do anything for his friends, family, and brothers. Although I only met Brian this fall semester, it felt like we had been friends for a long time. I never saw Brian without a smile on his face, and he would always greet me with a big hug, and we would talk about everything that was going on in our lives. He was an amazing big brother and was always willing to help me with school or life. The world lost an unbelievable person this week, and nothing can ever change that, but I know that Brian is in a great place and is now watching over all of us. I love you, and you will always be missed. Rest in eternal peace, my friend.

Even though I came here not knowing Brian at all, I’m beyond blessed and very grateful to have gotten to know the kind of person he was. I don’t think I’ve ever met a more down-to-earth and genuine person like him. He was super welcoming, and I’m proud to call him my president and an even better brother. Even though this is a difficult time for all of us, we can at least know that Brian was very proud of all the guys in this chapter, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Brian, I know you’re in a good place now. I hope you and your soul rest in peace for eternity. I wish my greatest prayers on you and your family because you all deserve our love from us. I love you as a friend and brother, but more importantly, we all love you as a family. May you rest in peace.

Brian was someone that lit up the room wherever he was. He was welcoming and caring; you could tell how much he cared about many things and people. I’d always call him, and he would talk your ear off about how we could better the Fraternity. I always looked forward to seeing him behind the counter at work. I wish all the everlasting light and joy he gave us upon him. He made this world a better place. Rest easy. I love you forever, Brian.

Brian Fraser was one of the most genuine, down-to-earth people I have ever been lucky enough to know. He exemplified a role model to everyone, was dedicated to the betterment of our chapter, and pushed everybody to be the best they could be. Brian had such a bright personality and always brought positivity with his presence. Although I only knew Brian for a short period of time, the impact he has had on me will be long-lasting. We will always remember him for the amazing young man he was, and we should all learn to be more like Brian. I am honored to consider you my fraternity brother. I will cherish the time I spent at MSU with you and pray that you watch over us all from Heaven.

I’ve known Brian since my freshman year at MSU, where we were both first introduced to the great brotherhood of Phi Delta Theta. We worked at the same country club in the summertime, and I would see him before our shifts before we went separate ways to our duties. Even when we were running late, he would always stop to say hello and ask how I was doing. Brian’s father was a member of the country club and was kind, just like Brian. Mr. Fraser and I had talked about Michigan State, how my shift had been going, and Brian. I want to thank Brian for always seeing how I was doing, making sure everyone had a smile around him, and caring so much for all of us by being a great leader, brother, and friend. To the Fraser family, thank you for allowing us to get to know Brian. I will continue to keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

I met Brian earlier this year as I rushed Phi Delta Theta, and I remember him immediately being one of the most welcoming guys there. He would go out of his way to make everyone feel welcome, and his leadership was like none other. I always remember how happy and outgoing he was and never failed to make any of us laugh. He told us stories about the parts of Grosse Pointe and Belle Isle and how many memories he had at school with his fellow fraternity brothers. Brian was just such a great guy. Watching him lead inspired me to want to do the same later down the road. Thank you, Brian, for the countless memories at the house, for your smile always lighting up the room around you, and for always being willing to talk even when we were setting up last minute before an event. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family members and loved ones. May he rest in peace.

Although I’ve only known Brian for six months, his legacy will last a lifetime. Brian was one of the most authentic guys I’ve ever met. He was a compassionate, empathetic, and driven leader who always had the best interest of others in mind. If there was an issue or if I had any questions, I never hesitated to reach out to him. One of my favorite memories of Brian took place on my initiation night, where we laughed, joked, and reflected on all the memories we shared throughout the semester. I’ll never forget walking through the doors of the Phi Delt house and feeling welcomed by his beloved laugh and smile. He lit up an entire room. We’ll never forget his impact on our Fraternity. Rest in paradise, Brian, until we meet again.

Very rarely do you come across a guy like Brian. Not only did he care for the Fraternity a great deal, but he cared for all of us as individuals. When talking to him, I could tell he was interested in whatever I had to say. I met Brian when I joined Phi Delta Theta in the fall of 2021. It was then that I realized the type of man Brian was and the great personality that he always had with him. Whenever Brian would walk into the dorm, he would have a big smile on his face, which usually turned into smiles on our faces. I am going to miss seeing you around. I send prayers to Brian and the Fraser family.

I met Brian during my first year here at Michigan State. You could tell from the start the kind of guy Brian was, a loving, caring individual who put himself second. His leadership and dedication to the Fraternity was something special. He cared a lot, and I mean a lot. I will never forget the impact Brother Fraser had on me. Brian, you taught me a lot about life. Never would I have thought you would be gone. After these last three semesters, I am happy to call you my brother. You made everyone around you a better person. You lifted the mood in every room you walked in. Thank you for shining a light in my life. Thank you for being a friend and brother. See you in another lifetime, brother. Rest easy.

I met Brian during my first year at Michigan State. I had encountered him weeks before joining Phi Delta Theta together. From that moment, I knew what kind of guy he was, a caring, genuine, and charismatic individual. As I got to know Brian, we built a friendship that will last forever. He could always brighten the mood with his contagious smile and charismatic energy. He cared deeply about his family, friends, and Fraternity. He is the most dedicated and hardworking individual I have ever met. He was more than just a great friend; he was a great son, brother, and individual. Thank you, Brian, for all the great memories. I won’t forget them! See you in the next life, brother. I will miss you, always.

Fraser, though I only have known him for about a year and a half, it feels like I’ve known him forever. He lit up every room he walked in. There is not a single person who didn’t like this guy. There are not enough words for how great of a person, or leader, and friend Brian Fraser was. Thankful for all the time I got to know this incredible person. I will forever cherish all the memories with him. He was and is loved by so many. We will never forget you. Rest easy, my brother. You made our chapter and this world a better place.

Fraser was an inspiration to everyone around him. While only knowing him for a year and a half, I knew he would be someone I could count on for the rest of my life. Brian was one of those guys who was just impossible to dislike. He was smart, funny, and a great leader. Most importantly, I never saw him without a smile on his face. He brought happiness to everyone around him, no matter the situation. He will forever be in our hearts, and we will continue to spread joy in his honor. Rest easy, Brian.

Brian was one of a kind, and the world lost an amazing individual. I did not know Brian before he joined Phi Delta Theta, but as soon as he joined, I knew we needed someone like him in our brotherhood. He cared for us as a Fraternity, but most importantly, he cared for us as individuals. Brian led by example and pushed us to be the greatest version of ourselves. You are loved and missed by everyone, Brian.

Brian was the nicest and most genuine guy I have ever met. From the day I met him, he was always so outgoing and had a smile. Sadly, I had only met him this year, but it did not take long for me to be able to tell what kind of person Brian was. You could tell who he was after just one conversation because he cared for everyone around him. Brian brought joy into the lives of everyone who knew him. He was one of those guys that got along with everyone. He was a natural leader and friend, and I feel honored to call Brian my brother. He will be missed greatly by everyone and will forever be in our hearts. Rest easy, brother.

I met Brian around this time last year and immediately knew he was someone I wanted to be friends with. He was one of the main reasons I decided to join our Fraternity because of how passionate he was about it, and that was my favorite quality about him. Brian talked with passion and charisma and always wanted the best for everyone. He was someone that could lead and inspire while at the same time being there for you and providing laughs and smiles when needed. Brian always tried his best to teach me how to play Euchre, even when it took a bit longer for me to understand, and for that, I will always be grateful. His presence lifted the room, and I will cherish our last memory forever. Brian will always have a place in my heart, and I will honor his legacy of making a change for the best in our world. Rest easy, Brian. You are so loved.

I met Brian last year during our first year. We went on spring break together, and what a great time that trip was. Brian had the time of his life, and we shared many memories I will cherish forever. He lived in the dorm down the hall from me, and we would always be together. Whether we were hanging out in my room, eating together every day, or lifting together, most of all shared great memories. He was just a genuinely great guy. Even if he was having a bad day, there was always a smile on his face. Even though he had a bunch of jokes that never landed, I wish I could hear one again and probably not laugh again, like usual. We shared so many memories in such a short time we knew each other. Brian was a great friend, a great person, and most of all, someone I called my best friend. He will always be in our thoughts and prayers, and I wouldn’t change the moments we spent together. Love you, Brian, until we meet again.

Brian was someone you could always count on to reside your feelings to. I met Brian early on in my first year at Michigan State, and we became close within our pledge class. I will miss all the times he came to my dorm at Campbell and introduced me to all his friends from back home. It was an incredible honor to meet people from his past and be a part of his life. He always lightened up any room when he walked in with his smile and sense of humor. On the first day of sophomore year, I visited Brian’s dorm to see his new room. Something that Brian said that will always stick with me was, “I really missed you. I’m glad you’re here.” Those words were incredibly important to me and will stick with me forever. He never failed to make you feel welcomed and a part of something. I wish I could tell him how important he was to so many of us and how he influenced me and many others. Brian, you were a compassionate, loving, mature, and humble human with so much love to share. Your leadership and integrity within this fraternity will not go unnoticed. You will forever be in our minds and hearts. Rest peacefully, Brian. I love and miss you.

Brian was one of my closest friends during pledging. We saw each other nearly every day. He was truly my brother, and I’m beyond devastated I must go through life without him. My favorite memory with Brian was in Fort Lauderdale. We spent the night walking around, laughing, and enjoying ourselves. I’ll cherish the good times we shared and miss you more than you know. Love you forever, Fraser.

Brian was a well-spoken and charismatic person who could lead everyone and anyone. Brian’s dedication to the Fraternity, academics, and whatever was in front of him was unmatched. Brian had an incredible personality and a priceless smile. His presence was always known and always there for everyone. I met Brian during my pledge semester last fall, and despite only knowing him for a short time, his impact was immeasurable. He motivated everyone around him to become the best person they could be. I recall many minor but impactful moments with Brian that made me feel welcome and at home at Phi Delta Theta. I was truly honored to have the opportunity to have known Brian, and he will always be in my heart. Love you, Brian.

In the short time I knew him, Brian became a role model for me and many others around him. He set a standard for his peers. He encouraged everyone to become the greatest versions of themselves. Brian put others before himself. He wanted to make everyone around him better. Brian’s kindness, selflessness, and attitude made him a role model. He will always hold a place in my heart and others. It was truly an honor to call him a brother. Until we meet again, rest in peace.

Brian was the perfect person to represent all of us as a leader, person, and friend. In the short time, I knew him, I never heard a negative word about Brian, which shows his integrity and character. Brian’s future possibilities were endless, as his charisma, intelligence, and kindness made him someone everyone wanted to be around. On the Saturday before his passing, when I last spoke with him, I asked if he had to be at the event because he was president, and he said, “No, I just want to be here.” Brian lit up every room he stepped in. I can only hope one day I’ll see him again. Rest in peace, Brian.

Brian was loved by all. I have so many memories with him, and not a single one was ever bad. From memories such as Fort Lauderdale for spring break or a concert in our front yard, he always had a smile on his face. I remember one day, he walked into my room and told me he was planning on running for president and asked if he had my vote and if I thought he would do a good job. I told him he would have my entire pledge class’ votes, and I knew he would do great things for this Fraternity. As president, he was already paying old bills that the past executive boards had put off and planning events. Brian had already accomplished so much at such a young age and had so much life ahead of him. It’s unfair that we have to spend it without him, but I am so lucky to have gotten to know him in the first place. I love you, Brian. Fly high.

Brian was my leader and brother. He was one of the first brothers I talked to on the first day of Phi Delta Theta’s recruitment week and made a lasting impact on me after my first day. I remember the next day looking for him because he was such an open and outgoing guy. Brian was what many people should strive to be. He was only president for a few months, but he had so many great ideas, plans, events, solutions, and future aspirations that would help this Fraternity and everyone in it. If I had a problem, I would go to Brian. Brian always knew what to do in every situation, and I could not have asked for a better leader and friend. I love and miss you, Brian.

I met Brian last year during the first semester of recruitment; I was the recruitment chair. From the moment I met Brian, you could tell that he had all the qualities of a true leader; he was kind, understanding, and strong. Brian was the best of all of us, and we will miss him. I’m genuinely honored to have met Brian; he will always be my brother.

Brian was a part of the fall 2021 semester pledge class. I remember meeting Brian on the first nights of recruitment. Brian was charismatic, interested, and driven. When you spoke with Brian, you could tell he was a leader. It was no surprise when Brian reached out to me to tell me he was running for president of our beloved chapter. I am a previous president, and it was a no-brainer that Brian was the right choice for the job. When he started his presidency, you would have thought he had years of experience due to being so calm, focused, and patient when leading our chapter. We all love you, Brian. Rest easy, brother.

Brian, I will cherish the memories of Grosse Pointe over the summer and fall break. Although we weren’t extremely close, we were still great friends, and I’ll miss you, man. I’ll miss you in our 8 a.m. class. I know you’re in a better place, but this is surreal. You were an amazing friend and had such a big heart for everything. As president, you wanted to bring us together and work with the chapter on improvements. There will not be a day I won’t think about you. Rest easy, Brian.

Brian, in the short time that I have known you, I have looked up to you so much. You truly embody everything that makes a gentleman. You are incredibly devoted and caring for those around you, constantly lighting the rest of our days with the love that you share with us. You were fearless in leading our Fraternity and did it unselfishly for the benefit of everyone else. We will strive to take every day of our lives with the joy you spread to us. Our brotherhood will forever live on through your impact. Rest well in paradise, brother. I love you so much.

Brian was so much more than my brother or fraternity president. I didn’t know Brian for long or was as close to him as others, but I couldn’t help being influenced by him. He was one of the kindest and most genuine people I have met. Brian was the best of us, and we will strive to be more like him. Rest easy, brother.

Words cannot describe how amazing Brian was. The first time I met Brian was our Big/Little night when I found out he was my great-grand little. I had a fantastic time getting to know Brian and bonded with him that night. What stuck out to me the most was his character and values. Brian was both the kindest and most caring person I’ve ever met. He put his brothers over himself and exemplified what true brotherhood means. We will never forget Brian. We will continue to celebrate his life every day for the rest of our lives.

I met Brian in the fall of 2021 while he was a Phikeia. Immediately upon meeting him, I knew that Brian cared about the Fraternity. I knew that he would contribute to making Michigan Beta amazing. Brian was not only charismatic and fun to be around, but his leadership as president was inspiring and made me want to do better. I wish I had spent more time with him, and I’m sure all of us feel the same way in that regard. In coelo quies est, Brother Brian.

Brian was one of the first brothers in Phi Delt I met during recruitment. I have never felt more welcomed or comfortable around someone I just met. There was something about him that was just different than others. His smile was genuine, and he possessed leadership qualities I had never seen in someone before. He always seemed to light up the room when he walked in. I felt like I had someone to go to because of him. After initiation, I felt a genuine brotherly connection with Brian. When I heard Brian was elected president, I knew he would positively change the Fraternity. I was lucky enough to interview him, and the one thing that always stuck with me that he said was, “I want to change the world around me.” And he did. He was always smiling but serious when he needed to be. Brian wanted the best for everyone and inspired me to do better. The world around you was lucky to have you. I love you, Brian, fly high and rest in peace, my friend and friend for life.

This semester is when I started to get to know Brian. From the first real conversation I had with him, it was clear how genuine he was. He always made sure everyone was smiling and having a good time. He was a very kind person, our leader, and he will be missed by everybody. It was a privilege to know him. We love you, Brian. Rest in peace.

When Brian was elected president back in December, I could just tell that he would do a great job. He was always able to speak in a calm and professional manner. He had every quality that you look for in a great leader, and he made everyone feel that they belonged. Since I previously held a position, I knew Brian would have his work cut out for him, but he was ready for every second of it. When we met up at the bank to transfer his name to the bank account, he was so professional and knew exactly what to do; it seemed as if he had been president for over a year. His dedication to the Fraternity and to being a great leader really showed. I truly wish that I could’ve gotten to know Brian better. Brian, you will be greatly missed, rest in peace.

I sadly only had a very short time with Brian regarding getting to know him, but there was never a dull moment in that span of five months. I remember the first time I got to know him. He took interest in me and allowed me to connect with him every time we spoke after that. The conversations were always very genuine, and I could tell he was one of those people in our world that wanted nothing but the best for others and was always interested in talking about something, whether it is just a simple exchange or a personal topic. When he got elected as president, I did not really know what to expect since I was still all new to this, but not once did he fail expectations. Brian was always on top of his game, he was ready to help anyone, willing to make time for others, had a huge amount of patience with everyone, and always kept me and my fellow brothers in line. Words really do fail me to describe Brian, but he was such a great fellow student and brother to have by my side, and I am honored and will be forever honored to call him my president. I will greatly miss you Brian and do my best to carry on the legacy you formed. Love you, Brian.

Brian left a smile and contagiously positive energy in every room he entered. There was never a time Brian was not smiling. Truly one of the nicest people to be around. The moment I met Brian at rush I knew he would be a great member of Phi Delta Theta and a courageous leader. He was an amazing person and a light in all of our lives. He will be missed by every one of us tremendously. We all love you, Brian.

I have only had the pleasure of knowing Brian for six months and in that time I was reminded every day of the kind, caring, and happy person he was. He took his role as president head on and everyone was excited to see the great things we knew he would do. From seeing him cleaning after chapter and taking countless responsibilities to better our Fraternity, he cared about every single one of us, and we all knew it. I introduced him to one of my lifelong friends and we ended up talking for a while. After we left, my friend told me how great of a guy he was and how he made him feel so welcome. He truly was one of the best people I had the honor of knowing. We will miss you, Brian. I love you.

From the day I met Brian during recruitment, I knew that he was someone that we wanted in our Fraternity. I also knew that he would be someone who everyone in the chapter would become great friends with. Getting to know Brian throughout the years, I don’t think I’ve ever met such a respectful and kind soul. In the way he carried himself around everyone he met, you always had a great conversation or encounter with the kid. When Brian approached me about becoming chapter president, I never had a doubt in my mind that he would not do an outstanding job and that’s exactly what he was doing. Handing that position over to him, I knew that chapter was in the hands of someone who had high expectations not only for himself but for the entire chapter. He would constantly reach out to me before he took over, always wanting to know more about the role and things he could do to be a great president. Not only was I able to become closer to Brian through that experience, but being a frequent customer at the Union I would always walk in there hoping to see Brian’s big smile and hopefully have a conversation with him. The number of times we saw each other at the Union will never be forgotten and it breaks my heart knowing that I won’t be able to experience those conversations anymore. Brian is someone that everyone is lucky to have come in contact with if they ever got the opportunity, and I’m so grateful to be able to call him not only my friend but also my brother. Brian, I know you are up there watching over all of us right now, and I want you to know that everyone you have ever met will continue your legacy and has been made a better person because of the impact you had on people. We love you Brian, and you will never be forgotten. Rest in peace with our lord, until we all meet again.

Brian, I never would’ve thought I’d be writing this. I always thought we would’ve been talking about memories years from now. You were an amazing person with a way of always making people smile. I pray you to know the impact you’ve had on everyone around you. Even when you were complaining you always had a way of smiling through it. You’ll never be forgotten, my friend.

Brian was one of the kindest and most genuine people I have ever met. Words cannot describe the pain we all feel, to losing such a great soul that you were. The loving smile and positivity that he always brought was something truly special. A selfless and courageous leader, who cared so much about the Fraternity and each and every person around him. It was a privilege and honor to have you in our presence and you will be dearly missed. Forever a brother to all of us. We love you, Brian, rest in peace.

Brian was one of the most caring people I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting. I remember the first weekend after he became president. While most were at home enjoying their Friday, Brian was at our house cleaning. That night he told us that no matter how much help he had, he would make sure that our Fraternity was ready to host a gathering, even if he had no help. Brian was so selfless and cared about others more than himself. We will all miss him. Brian will be loved forever.

Fraser wasn’t just a great guy and great friend but much more than that. He brightened every room he walked into and always knew how to have fun. An amazing human with an even bigger heart that could do no wrong. I didn’t know Brian till I met him during rush last fall and it seemed like he just connected with everyone so easily. I can’t even begin to describe how tragic this is and so undeserving. Such a great guy I’m lucky I got to call you a friend. Rest easy, Brian.

Brian was without a doubt one of the nicest guys that I have had the pleasure of knowing. He was one of those guys that you just never had a reason to get mad at, since he was kind and welcoming to everyone. He was very mature, responsible, and level-headed, all great qualities in a leader. It was obvious that he cared about Phi Delt and his brothers greatly, and he put lots of work into bettering the Fraternity, even with the short amount of time he had to do it. No matter what I was stressing about, talking to him always put me at ease, and helped me through what was a very chaotic time in my life. Even now I can’t imagine not seeing him around the house, in class, or at our events. He was one of our best, and none of us in Phi Delt will ever forget Brian. Rest easy brother, we miss you.

Six months ago, I made the decision that I did want to become a part of a brotherhood. I knew of Phi Delt from home and from hanging around them on campus. A friend of mine mentioned a Phi Delt named Brian Fraser, and said I would get along with him.

One day, I was heading downstairs with some friends to go on a walk, and we were waiting for the elevator to open. Surely enough, Brian was the only one inside the elevator. I asked him if he wanted to come with us, and he did. During the walk, he explained recruitment to me, when it was, where it was, and how it all worked. The energy I got from him made me even more excited to go through recruitment and meet the people in this Fraternity. After I told him this, he started coming to our dorm to hang out with me and my roommate Jacob Henige, who was also in my pledge class. Brian just wanted to get to know us as people, and I wanted to get to know him too.

I could tell he cared about his Fraternity and was trying to make it a better chapter. During my pledge semester, Brian and I started getting really close. As some time passed, he told me he wanted to start making some money, and the Union seemed like a very convenient place because it was right next to our building. He started working at the Union, and of course, I had to come and visit him while he was working. After a few weeks of him working there, Brian and I had created a routine. He would go to work, and I would come and visit him. Brian would save his break so we could eat together. After he got off work, we would play Madden. Even if he did not have a good day at work, he would still come in with a smile. I love you, Brian. Thank you for always putting a smile on my face and for being there when I needed it. You will be missed by so many and never forgotten. I’m going to miss all of the things we did together. Rest easy, Brian.

Phi Delta Theta sends its deepest condolences to the Fraser family, the Michigan Beta Chapter, and all those who loved Brian as they mourn their loss. In collaboration with his parents, Phi Delta Theta wishes to memorialize him through a Presidential Scholarship for Michigan Beta.

Funds raised in Brian’s memory will support the Brian Fraser Presidential Memorial Scholarship, which will help future Michigan Beta presidents fund their education. It is our hope at Phi Delta Theta and the hope of Brian’s parents that each Phi who receives this scholarship will embody Brian’s charismatic, contagious smile and caring, loyal energy.

In coelo quies est.

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There is no easy way to say it. On Monday evening, Brian Fraser, president of the Michigan Beta Chapter of Phi Delta Theta, was killed in a mass shooting event at Michigan State University. Brian’s death is a tragedy; he had so much life left to live. Together, the entire Phi Delta Theta Fraternity mourns the loss of our brother. We send our deepest sympathies to Brian’s family and friends. As a Fraternity, we are doing everything we can to support our brothers at Michigan Beta by providing them with the resources they need to grieve this devastating loss.

While supporting Michigan Beta remains our primary focus, the Fraternity realizes that mass shooting events, especially ones that hit so close to home, have the potential to trigger difficult emotions in brothers across our organization. We encourage all of our undergraduate leaders to take time to process this event at their next chapter meeting.

To process this event, we encourage our chapter presidents to collaborate with their chaplain to do the following:

Schedule a time to engage in brave conversation about this event at your next chapter meeting.

Introduce the conversation by summarizing what happened and laying out ground rules. Let members know that this space is for them to share their honest emotional reactions. Each member should feel free to share or not share without fear of judgment. Be sure to remind members that there is no right response to a tragedy. All emotional responses are valid.

Your chapter may already engage in structured conversations like Pass the Gavel. If so, use that structure to facilitate the exchange. Just be sure to frame the discussion as an opportunity to process what happened at Michigan State.

As members share, be comfortable with silence. Remember that this conversation does not need to be a place for solutions or unsolicited advice. It is simply a space to be present with each other. Facilitators should not feel pressured to respond to every comment.

You might also conclude the conversation by inviting members to share positives from their week or by engaging in a gratitude practice that allows members to share things they are grateful for, even in the midst of tragedy.

Once you have given ample time for conversation, end the discussion by reminding members of the various resources available on campus for them to process their grief. You might even distribute the contact information for the college or university counseling center at the meeting. You might also direct them to the Fraternity’s individual emotional health resource document.

Finally, remind members that the chapter’s chaplain, or the designated mental health chairman, is there to engage in further conversations with members if they are experiencing difficult emotions relating to this event. Be sure to refer members to professional services as needed.

By engaging in brave conversations, we can ensure that members across the Phi Delta Theta International Fraternity have access to the care and support they need to process this horrific event. Together, we can be our brother’s keepers.

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By Brian Lynn, Eastern Washington ’98

Our college years and ongoing membership in Phi Delta Theta has enriched our lives and given us all a foundation upon which to build our futures. Both institutions delivered experiences and relationships that helped form our worldview while providing friendships that serve as a support system and navigate life’s trials and tribulations after college.

But times change, and time changes all.

World views often shift with circumstances and perspectives as we age or advance up the corporate ladder; college relationships morph or slowly fall by the wayside as we continue to move forward in life.

For the men of Washington Epsilon at Eastern Washington University (EWU), however, an annual Memorial Day weekend camping trip has helped keep those relationships intact, despite the rigors and distractions of life throughout the rest of the year.

What was once a brothers’ only weekend for a few alumni has, as happens with all circumstances and relationships, transformed into a family affair that now occurs annually, including everyone from toddlers to the Washington Epsilon Founders who were on the first camping trips.

The Early Years (when we were young, single, and poor)

In the mid-to-late 1990s, the Founders of Phi Delta Theta at EWU had recently graduated and wanted to reconnect over the long Memorial Day weekend. The alumni decided upon a camping trip, and a “Boys’ Weekend” was born.

It was a typical affair for men in their early 20s. Hikes, mountain biking, and fishing during the day. Talk of new jobs, blossoming careers, and impending relationships over beers around a campfire at night. College friendships renewed for another year over laughter as each alumnus began to find their way in the real world.

And then it happened. A jolting change to the brotherly dynamic.

Girlfriends began to tag along. In the opinion of some, it was perfectly fine. To others, this was tantamount to treason, and banishment was the appropriate punishment (or at least unrelenting heckling).

In time, women won out and the traditional weekend set aside for manly adventure became known simply as the Memorial Day Camping Trip, and girlfriends were welcome. Harmony was restored, and all was well.

But then it got worse.

Those girlfriends became wives!

In time, those wives began to birth offspring. As everyone knows, children present an entirely different set of circumstances. If the brothers’ only weekend wasn’t dead with girlfriends and wives present, it would surely perish with the arrival of diapers, formula, and Baby Bjorn carriers.

But the men of Washington Epsilon persevered and dragged their girlfriends, wives, and the subsequent broods into the Cascade Mountains every Memorial Day weekend. The group pitched tents on the cold, hard, wet ground and set up coolers of food, beer, and baby formula.

Balance was once again found.

However, not all was harmonious. Camping has a way of bringing out different stressors than those found in the city’s rat race while climbing the corporate ladder.

Friends, brothers even, don’t always see eye to eye. Spouses, especially those new to a group, don’t always appreciate a tradition—especially when it involves roughing it. More than once, the growing group of young Phi Delt alumni faced conflict head-on.

There was the infamous Marshmallow Incident of ’98, when two brothers, who shall remain nameless, took the tossing of marshmallows too far and ended up wrestling in the mud one dark and stormy night while everyone else took shelter, watching from under tarps strung between trees. Nearly twenty years later, the two must maintain a fair distance from each other during s’mores assemblage.

Much like a family outgrows their first home, the small campground that housed the dozen or so campers in the early years just didn’t work for all the new alumni that wanted to join in the weekend. The group required a bigger place with warmer, drier weather.

The Mid-Life Years (married with children and aging)

Those early camping years were enjoyable in the same way that college was— nobody knew any different.

Now, more than 20 year later, the Memorial weekend camping trip is now known as Phi Camp. And, like those who have been around since the inception, a certain stability and level of comfort has come with middle age.

Like snowbirds, the camp has moved to a secret spot on the east side of the Cascade Mountains so as to increase the chance of sunny, warm weather. Where tents once littered campgrounds, now fewer do, as wives have put their feet down and brothers in their 40s find less enjoyment as they did in their 20s upon waking on the hard ground; an armada of trailers, RVs and fifth wheels the size of some of our college apartments now stand.

And then there’s the children. So. Many. Children.

Apparently, Phi Delts are a productive lot, as children now outnumber adults, and those babies holstered to their father’s chests during competitive games in the early years are now readying to graduate from high school (with several becoming legacies in Phi Delta Theta).

Phi Camp has taken on a middle-aged consistency. Brothers and wives from the 1990s to the 2010s congregate, laugh, and share. Children from newborns to high schoolers do the same, each age group of kids finding their own way and entertainment for what’s become a four-day weekend. Trailers, grills, and coolers are shared. If a stray child shows up at a picnic table or trailer, it gets fed and then scurries off with a group of peers until the next meal.

Annual traditions continue to evolve: games for young and old(er) alike; a potluck-dinner night; a bouncy castle, big-screen movie night and piñata for the kids; karaoke night at a brother’s trailer; a water fight instigated by children against unsuspecting parents; S’mores around the campfire (with proper supervision of children and specific brothers); the yearly kickball game that the youngest to oldest camper plays in. There’s even Phi Camp apparel each year.

One ritual, a throwback to chapter members’ school days at Washington Epsilon, takes place on Saturday night. A long walk by the brothers in which they take turns sharing with one another what’s going on in their lives – success or hardship, it matters not, everyone listens silently to whomever has the floor, offering support or congratulations afterwards.

It’s a bit of an ode to the brothers only weekend from which this family tradition has sprung. Those brotherly bonds have now connected families and different generations of Phi Delt alumni. What started with a few guys escaping for the weekend has turned into a camping clan of 100 or more brothers, wives and children gathering to celebrate the foundation and relationships they built as members of Phi Delta Theta and continue to nurture today.

Two founders shared their thoughts about what being a founder of Washington Epsilon means to them.

Comments from two founders:

“The defining and proud role of founding the Washington Epsilon Chapter of Phi Delta Theta provided many opportunities to me and the members of our interest group, emerging chapter, and chapter. The process to establish a chapter and come together as young men was both challenging and rewarding.”

Upon reflection, this quote rings true, “Nothing worth doing is easy.” Most importantly, what I’ve learned is that relationships made and maintained are priceless. Every year those who are able gather for Phi Camp each Memorial Day weekend.

Throughout the year we stay connected with family vacations, Seahawk games, skiing, golfing, mountain biking, hunting, and other spontaneous connections. When times get interesting, we know that we can call one another for support and advice. In sad times, we often share one another’s grief at the death of a loved one. Or even the closing of our beloved chapter.

Our sons and daughters are now entering college, and many are choosing to join a fraternity or sorority, including four legacy Phis at Eastern Washington University! We are truly blessed to have Washington Epsilon as part of our lives.”

–Kevin Dull Bond #1, Eastern Washington, ’93

“I could write reams about the impact of the Washington Epsilon Chapter on me in the thirty years since we joined together and embraced the principles of Friendship, Sound Learning, and Rectitude. New research has shown that our happiness levels in life are related to our relationships, not money or health even, but friendships. Even when I moved to a different state, through the many life events that have transpired in our lives, the founders maintain contact. And the legacy continues through our children. And sadly, three founders have entered the Chapter Grand.

We continue to find ways to be together. In fact, just this month we started the WaE Investment Club as we prepare for retirement.

My experience is wrapped up by this scripture –

“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!” -Psalm 133:1.

–Blake DeFrance, Bond # 13, Eastern Washington, ’93

Thoughts from three campers, and newest generation of Phis

Camden Weber has been attending Phi Camp with his uncle, Bond # 72, Kolby Schafer, Eastern Washington ’96, and cousin, Brayton since he was in the first grade.

What was initially just “a blast” became an annual weekend event that Camden looked forward to every summer. As he grew up, he said that the campers became like family, “always happy to see me, and asking about me and my family each year.”

Favorite highlights include the all-age-kickball game. We had kids from five-years-old, to the most senior Phi Delts on teams competing and laughing with one another.

“As a kid, all I knew was that these were buddies in college in this thing called Phi Delt. And what I knew, is that the memorial weekend Phi Camp was fun. And I looked forward to it every year.”

When Camden was in high school, and beginning to consider colleges, he also had a grasp on what this alumni weekend meant to his uncle and his uncle’s chapter brothers. “Even though college was back in the 1990s, they were still like best friends, they never missed a beat from year to year, catching up with one other’s life stories, sharing in the successes, and working through the struggles.”

When I realized I’d be going to Eastern Washington, I knew I’d want to be part of Phi Delt. Recruitment occurred in January 2021, and Camden is one of the newest Phikeias of the Washington Epsilon Chapter.

–Phikeia Camden Weber, nephew of Kolby Schafer, Eastern Washington ’96

According to Camden’s camp buddy, and now Washington Epsilon Big Brother, Riley Eggleston, “Phi camp has shown that the friendship and bonds within the Fraternity are for a lifetime. Since I was just a little kid, I remember the kickball games, biking around camp, and the goofy made-up games that we played all weekend long.”

“Looking back at those weekends, I now know it was a way for Phis to catch up on life, their struggles, and the watch their kids grow up! It’s crazy how big Phi Camp has become since our first camp. It gets bigger and better each year!”

–Legacy Riley Eggleston is a member at WA Epsilon. His father is Founder Keith Eggleston, Bond #6, Eastern Washington ’96

Hunter Johnson, Idaho ’22, started coming to Phi Camp when his mom started dating his now stepdad, Adam Hendricks, Eastern Washington ’04.

Like the other guys, the early attraction to camp was the all-out fun and games the kids had while at the camp.

As he aged, he began to see the connection with the life and friendships his stepdad had with his college fraternity brothers. As he got closer to college decisions, he realized a college with Phi Delta Theta would was an important consideration.

When he was admitted to the University of Idaho, and he learned there was a Phi Delta Theta Chapter, he pursued membership. By this time, some of his camp friends were also committing to Phi Delt back at Eastern Washington. He and Riley Eggleston are the same age and were entering college at different places but with some of the same intentions.

Hunter was offered a bid, and he has made it his Phi-life mission to help Idaho Alpha form their very own Phi Camp, modeled exactly like the one he grew up attending.

Hunter talked about it during recruitment. He talked about Phi Camp during new member period, and he continues to beat the drum of starting that camp upon his graduation. He is paving the way for Idaho Alpha alumni to have their very own camp, and he hopes one day to be looking back, seeing his buddies and their families grow up, just like the guys back in Washington have.

“My stepdad came to my initiation and participated in the weekend’s activities. It was a special moment and the fact that we share the Bond is even better. I knew it was worth pursuing, but now that I’m living the Phi Delt life in Idaho, I am confident that this is all only the very beginning.”

–Legacy Hunter Johnson, Idaho ’22, stepson to Adam Hendricks, ’04

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By Suzanne Alexander, Director of the LiveLikeLou Foundation

Gary Mitchell is a family man. He loves Sonja, his wife of twenty-seven years, and he adores his three kids and eight grandkids too. Gary’s long-time day job was construction, but he filled his days off with his hobbies of dirt track racing, hunting, and fixing old cars with friends.

The Mitchell family was devastated when Gary was diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS) in 2009. The disease has weakened his muscles to nearly full paralysis now, and he is unable to speak. It forced Gary to give up everything, including the hobbies he enjoys, and it requires Sonja to be the sole provider for her family and full-time caregiver for her husband.

Over the years, the Mitchell family’s list of household projects had become overwhelming. Small tasks like light repairs and seasonal chores built up and became impossible to prioritize.

“It was the little things that my husband would normally do,” Sonja said. “Gary was a handyman, and it was stressful to him and me that these things were piling up.

“Our house didn’t really feel like a home. I didn’t have the energy to keep up with everything, and it was depressing me,” Sonja shared. Most caregivers share this sense of overwhelming depression, according to a 2017 study of caregiver mental health conducted by the National Institutes of Health.

As part of the LiveLikeLou Adopt and Serve an ALS Family Program, men of Phi Delta Theta at Ashland University, led by long-time Phi Delt volunteer and Ashland alumnus Tony Magistro, have stepped up to the plate. Since the spring of 2019, Tony has recruited and organized nearly thirty undergraduate brothers to volunteer for the Mitchell family through Adopt and Serve. They have repaired door locks, removed old trees, built a dog cage, and even folded the family’s laundry.

“They weren’t just worried about my list of chores, but the whole family’s,” Sonja said. “The guys even cleaned my daughter’s rabbit cage.”

Two larger projects provided the Mitchell family with wonderful gathering places to be a family and build community.

The first project was building an outdoor firepit, where Gary can now sit in his wheelchair with neighbors and watch his grandchildren play in the yard.

“Tony told us Phi Delt wanted the family to have a place where we could relax and enjoy life, including Gary,” Sonja remembers.

The next big job was planning and constructing a greenhouse adjacent to the Mitchell family’s business, Big Prairie Local Produce Vegetable Stand. Over several weekends Tony worked with the undergraduate volunteers to plan the greenhouse design, buy and transport the materials, and build the new space where Sonja now grows more produce to sell.

“This small business is a place where our neighbors can shop and visit with Gary, and we can make a little income to support ourselves,” Sonja explained. “Now we can be together and enjoy life, just like Tony promised.”

Ohio Mu President Pierson Noonan has been on the volunteer team with Tony multiple times.

“Working with the Mitchell family has been a humbling experience,” Pierson wrote. “They have been kind and thankful. There is nothing like helping an ALS family and seeing our impact over time.”

Jaret Baker is the Ohio Mu community service chairman. Jaret wrote, “Volunteering for the Mitchells has given me a better appreciation for the little things in life. Working on their vegetable stand has been so rewarding because we are helping them with their business.”

The disease of ALS is personal for Tony, who lost a dear friend to it thirty years ago, and he also watched his mother suffer from a neurodegenerative disease.

“The Mitchells are doing everything they can to stay together and get through this disease,” Tony said. “They are good people and have dreams for their life. It feels good to help them.”

Tony works with Sonja to plan the volunteer projects and then sets a schedule for the undergraduates to volunteer. He uses patience and planning in equal measure to get the jobs done.

“Tony has a relentless drive to help the Mitchells,” Jaret writes. “He is always the first one to arrive and the last one to leave. He is inspiring to all of us.”

“Some of these guys don’t know how to work certain tools, or they have never had to measure or plan a building project,” he said. “And some of them can only come for short shifts of work. So, I teach one group of volunteers, and then I re-teach a different group of volunteers when they can come.”

“I know they are bringing what they learn back to their schoolwork,” he added.

When asked why he leads the undergraduates in volunteering for ALS, Tony said, “This is something I can do without writing a check. It’s more meaningful to give time. It’s the most valuable thing we can give.”

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To say that this year has been a wild ride compared to previous years is like comparing the differences between riding a wooden roller coaster to launching into space. This year has been shaky, jarring, uncertain, tense, and at times overwhelming. Sometimes it just feels like the world has gone mad. Since February, the twists and turns, such as changing campus and community policies, recommendations for masks, quarantines, and daily life has been turned upside down. Let us not forget the Great Toilet Paper Shortage of 2020.

I doubt many people will look back and call these very happy times as this year has highlighted the separations between ourselves and our fellow humans instead of our commonalities. The marquee events of our semester that bring us together have largely been placed on hold or fundamentally changed, such as homecoming, graduations, philanthropy events, mixers, Founders Day, province retreats, and our leadership conferences. I never thought I would attend a friend’s graduation wedding via Zoom, but it was a great excuse to wear a tie and bathrobe to a wedding.

For me personally, the events that generally recharge my passion for Phi Delt as a volunteer, create space for self-care, reconnect me with brothers that have become some of my closest friends, and my opportunity to interact with our remarkable undergrads at conferences and retreats, have unfortunately been substituted by Zoom meeting, emails, and the occasional phone call. For many of us, this has been a tough time and an adjustment for which none of us were prepared. It has not been fun for me, and I imagine many of you are experiencing similar feelings towards the current state of things. However, as I learned from my time as a wrestler and offensive lineman, sometimes we just have to embrace the suck and find the opportunities that these challenges present us.

Despite many of us feeling down, cheated, or just less enthusiastic, there are ways to learn, grow, and connect with the foundation of our fraternal experience; connecting with others. I am fortunate enough to have several close friends in the Province President Corps that I speak to often. We often discuss our chapters, our concerns for when “normal” will come back, and how current events impact our undergrads’ experience within our provinces. We share successes, challenges, and the occasional venting session as good old alumni will do. I cannot emphasize enough that those of us who volunteer for this brotherhood feel immense pride in what you do in your chapters, on your campuses, and in your communities. I know this is a little tangential, but I don’t think we share that fact enough with all of you.

There are brothers who I see at our educational conferences, and that routine has been largely disrupted. It feels like decades since I last saw them, was able to sit, catch up on our lives, and discuss the current state of the Fraternity, and our hopes for the future. Quite honestly, I have taken many of these relationships and opportunities to see these brothers for granted over the last nine years as a volunteer.

So what does COVID-19 present as an opportunity?

Right now, how we fundamentally build and maintain relationships and our connections to others has been blasted into pieces. Some of the ways that we are most comfortable interacting, such as social gatherings, face-to-face contacts, and events are largely limited or unavailable. But, we do not need to let the distance between us define how we live our life in The Bond. The opportunity now is to experiment with the ways that we connect with others, including our brothers, alumni, Phikieas, and potential new members. Our connection with others at this time serves several purposes, the most important of which is that it is okay to connect with one another, even if it isn’t perfect, and it’s an opportunity to reconnect and re-engage brothers we may have not spoken to in years. If we did fraternity right, the time between these contacts don’t matter as much because the strength of the connections are so powerful, resilient, and ever impactful to our own mental health and the health of others.

The ways we have communicated and kept in touch have changed, but that doesn’t mean that it is any less in quality, even if it feels a little different. I have been on several Zoom hangouts with brothers since April, and it has been refreshing to reconnect with some that I haven’t seen or spoken to in years. We have hosted hangouts to just check in with one another, planned for a bachelor party and wedding, and even held our own homecoming of sorts. Where normally would text once in a while, we now call each other to chat more often. The connections we have been reinvigorating has been helpful to all of us keeping our spirits bright during these tough times. I am lucky enough to have one chapter brother that calls me nearly every Sunday, and we chat about what meat he is grilling or smoking that day, how everyone else is doing, and try to coordinate when we will see one another next. I cannot emphasize enough that the time invested during undergrad with our brothers pays dividends for the rest of our lives. During some of the worst parts of stay-at-home orders, quarantines, increasing spikes in Covid-19 cases, having the outlet to connect with my brothers has kept me in a better place.

Our connections to others is a major part of what it is to be human, and is a core component of our Fraternity. So our opportunity now is to leverage technology and continue to invest in our fraternal experiences. Use this time to try new ways of connecting with brothers, alumni, Phikeias, and potential new members. Some of your advisors and province presidents may have ideas on how to keep connected with your members, but others may not know how to advise you on how to stay connected due to lack of familiarity, and both are okay as we can’t be masters of everything. As a chapter, hold meetings that include those that are off campus this semester. Continue to find ways to bring even small groups together, such as around a fire pit, a weekly dinner, or even just meeting between classes on campus.  Create traditions that the chapter may adopt for years to come that add to our value proposition. Breakaway from practices that are antiquated, don’t move the chapter forward, or leave us behind because we are resistant to challenge the process during these uncertain times. Engage new groups of potential new members, recruit through friend groups, and take multiple new member classes in a semester that are smaller, but fully engaged in not only the Phikeia process, but then remain invested in being active and engaged brothers. Recruit quality members that want to be the change in your chapter because holding onto “how things have always been done.”

If your chapter has struggled to put out an alumni newsletter, try it now with fresh eyes and new ideas. I believe I speak for most alumni when I say that we care much less about you winning intramural championships, but more on how you and the chapter is doing, what you are learning throughout this difficult and uncertain time, and how we can help as alumni. Use the resources available to engage alumni that you haven’t for a long time. Have a meeting with the Phikeias and have an alumni join via video and speak with the new class. Tell the alumni of some of the struggles and how you have tried to address them during Covid-19, as maybe some of us have ways to support or ideas of how to address what is going on in the chapter. Use the fund-raising tools provided by GHQ to help pay for new member dues or help brothers that were unable to pay their dues because of not having a summer job. We want you to become the greatest version of yourself, support you through the process, and assist where we can.

During these trying times, investing and engaging in our brotherhood could not be more important for our own growth and the betterment of our chapters. By trying new ways of connecting with one another, we can provide support for one another, create new ways of engaging undergrad and alumni members, and pave the way for how our chapters operate in the future. As we try new ways of connecting, please know that it will never be perfect from the start, your ideas may need to be retooled or redone, and it is the process that is more important than the final product. Engage in behaviors and activities that create the positive change that makes the human experience so awesome, fulfilling, and ever changing. We are all human, and brothers, and we each are perfectly imperfect, but it is what we do despite the challenges of this year and next that will truly define our character, our growth, and our connections with others. If nothing else during the trying times, reach out and connect with others, because you never know how just a simple phone call, text, email, snapchat, or any other form of communication could make someone’s day.

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“Be the person that others will look for your daily posts because they know you will encourage them. Be the positive one and help others to have a great day, and you will find that not only will they like you, but you will like you too.”  John Patrick Hickey

During my years of service as an army combat engineer officer and as a member of the all-volunteer military force of the United States, I was fascinated by both the art and science of leadership. Military historian Roger Nye once wrote that “leadership is not defined by an individual’s position or rank, but rather confirmed when those that one is charged to lead choose to follow.” The wonderful beauty in realizing this reality is that leaders can then help elevate others while simultaneously accomplishing the mission. Formal and informal leaders, some defined by position and others who are not, demonstrate certain characteristics that influence others in a positive way. Leaders display an uncommon commitment to the cause, other team members, customers, and partners. They serve other members of their organization and their communities selflessly, with humility, empathy, wisdom, and kindness.

At this point, you may be wondering why my opening paragraph in this post about civility is all about leadership. I hope that by starting with leadership I can lay out the argument that a well-functioning civil society needs, no requires, sound leadership, so others can experience a good example that can be emulated, replicated, and seen as a source for positive change.

My argument is meant to promote the merits of civility during these difficult times. I would suggest that civility within a community can itself establish positive conditions for change, mutual support, and the greater good. It is often assumed that an argument is fueled by emotion, even anger. Although that can sometimes be the case, an argument during civil discussion is simply an opposing view, and should be seen as a starting point, instead of a hard stop.

In modern times, there are numerous examples where civility won the day and exposed the roadmap to better times. For example, the market crash of 1929, caused by fears of excessive market speculation by the United States Federal Reserve, caused tremendous upheaval in our society, but calmer heads prevailed. With civility and sound leadership across many sectors of society, and a stronger economy, our people experienced a greater appreciation for place, an increased sense of community—neighbors looking out for neighbors, and tremendous opportunity. The reciprocity achieved out of such a negative far-reaching event sowed the way towards ever greater achievement as a society.

During these challenging times, it is civility that can energize collective innovation and initiative. If only we, as one people, forego antagonizing those with differing views through social media posts, the messaging on our clothes, and threatening actions. We can and should use our arguments to promote better understanding and perhaps better solutions to the challenges we all face.

How can fraternity help us bridge the gap between where we are and where we are heading? Fraternity establishes a baseline for accepted norms, collective values, mutual support, and friendship. In this sense, individual members commit themselves to a code of conduct and the accountability that comes from belonging to a fraternal order.

During the conduct of fraternity business, it is essential that time be allowed for all viewpoints to be shared, so the best possible outcomes can be realized. At the beginning of meetings conducted by one of the groups I belong to, and I will paraphrase here, it is said, “let not our petty grievances disrupt our discussions and our good work.” It’s a solemn reminder that we all have biases, preferences, and beliefs shaped by our upbringing, environment, opportunities, and life’s journey, but at the same time, if we are to imagine what is new and possible, we must embrace civility as a responsibility of all.

For most of us, 2020 has been a year unlike most others. We have dealt with a series of events outside of our control, and in some cases, the second and third order effects of those events. The year is not yet over, but as we enter the fourth quarter, having pulled through the first two-thirds of the year together, it is becoming ever more evident that together we will navigate the remainder of a pandemic, a recession, and a national election. Many of the solutions we discover along the way can make us stronger, more resilient, wiser, and hopefully a little more humble and open to new ideas.

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I have watched the news the past couple of weeks with a heavy heart. I have heard stories from many of our members and alumni. I have had many restless nights. I have shed tears, thinking about the countless lives impacted by violence, bigotry, and racism. My heart hurts. I have worked to continue to educate myself. I have more work to do, and I recognize that I am not going to be perfect. Anti-racism work is messy and difficult. Those who know me well, know that I am happy to engage in spirited debate on a range of issues and ultimately agree to disagree if necessary. Racism is not, and will never be, one of those things.

I have no problem saying that Black Lives Matter. As a movement, BLM has been weaponized for political purposes. Some people have strong opinions on both sides. However, we must filter out the noise of politics. Saying Black Lives Matter is a humanity issue. Do All Lives Matter? You bet. However, the Black community continues to face violence, harassment, and racism on a daily basis. Is that your reality? If it is not, consider yourself to be in a position to make a difference and amplify the voices of those that do.

Phi Delta Theta Fraternity was founded on the high ideals of friendship, sound learning, and rectitude. Our Founders formed this society to create a place for the free exchange of ideas in a time when universities were less than hospitable to this type of self-awareness. The fact that Phi Delta Theta contributed to systems of oppression and racism, both in policy and practice, in later years is ironic in a way that I would prefer it not to be. For almost 50 years, like many organizations of the time, Phi Delta Theta did not allow students of color to join our Fraternity. Although this policy was abolished in 1954, we cannot continue to diminish this historical fact and its place in our history.

We have come a long way, but we still have work to do. Saying the phrase, “Becoming the greatest version of yourself” does not magically make it so. It takes work. It takes sound learning. It takes rectitude. It takes friendship. Our ritual tells us we have an obligation to our fellow man to live our lives in a way that makes our world a better place. History has shown, and the past two weeks have magnified, the fact that we have a long way to go.

So what do we do now? First, we must listen. We cannot understand what our members of color experience, the lives they have lived. We must not listen without action, and my promise to you is that we will act. I have work to do. We have work to do. We will do this work together.

Moving Forward – A Note from Phi Delta Theta

The death of George Floyd and the resulting protests throughout the world have caused much anger and frustration, and once again highlight issues of racism, inequality, and injustice for Black Americans in the United States. The events have also led to promising conversations about a better tomorrow, and we are greatly encouraged by them.

Phi Delta Theta wants to do everything it can to be part of the solution. We know that making meaningful change begins by listening, learning, and having open dialogue with each other. This is what we are doing, and we’ve been encouraged by the number of our members who have raised their hands to participate.

We are continuing this dialogue with our members who have said they want to be a part of the solution. We are very encouraged by these conversations, and we know it will help Phi Delta Theta take action where it will be most effective for our organization and its people.

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We are living in unprecedented times. For many, this is the first time they have experienced any sort of global phenomenon, let alone a global pandemic. However, Phi Delta Theta as an organization has lived through wars, influenza outbreaks, and depressions, and it still stands strong as ever today. In this chaotic time where it seems that the only certain thing is uncertainty (and social distancing), it can be a good thing to reflect back on the values our Founders constructed back in 1848 and how we can utilize them in the face of this uncertain time.

Practicing friendship may seem more difficult than ever when considering the current importance of self-quarantines and social distancing. Deviating from our normal routines of hanging out with friends or large gatherings on campus may have left us with a sense of isolation. But based on what we know about what friendship means to members of Phi Delta Theta, we understand that the relationships we cherish do not simply fade away when we are separated by distance. Our challenge to our members is to think outside the box, how can you connect with your brothers and friends remotely, whether that be a group video call, playing video games online together, or even getting old school and writing a letter to a friend. In times of isolation, people need friendship more than ever, and no group is as prepared to share that as members of Phi Delta Theta.

With many of us having moved back home and with online classes and other obligations being cancelled, we now have a lot more time on our hands. While it’s tempting to binge watch The Office a few times through, we can also use this opportunity to practice sound learning outside the classroom. What is something you have always wanted to do? Maybe it’s reading that book that’s been collecting dust on your shelf, or picking up the guitar or another instrument, or maybe even learning a new talent or skill to prepare you for your dream career. There are so many ways you can push yourself to pursue something new with your newfound free time. Members of Phi Delta Theta are aware of the benefits of learning inside and outside of the classroom, and we hope you’ll make the most of this time to continue your pursuit of knowledge.

With COVID-19 posing such a threat to the health and function of our society, it can be easy to see rectitude as an afterthought, something that you’ll “put on hold” until everything calms down. But now is as important of a time as ever for us to utilize our sense of right and wrong as members of this organization. We can practice rectitude in this situation by fact checking the information that we share on social media and in person, encouraging the spread of truth instead of panic. We should be following CDC recommendations and doing our best to prevent the spread of this virus, but also finding ways to help those that are most vulnerable; this could look like getting groceries or other necessities for those at higher risk, donating to the local food bank to help those that are likely to be economically impacted by this disease, or finding creative ways to support small businesses at this time as well. In addition, garner support from your brothers and other connections and encourage them to do the same.

Phi Delts are known for their commitment to our founding values, and we strongly believe that practicing those values is exactly what the world needs from us right now. We are lucky to have an organization that has survived through hardship in the past as our foundation of living in the present. In the midst of chaos, a group of men that are committed to intentionally building their friendships stronger in isolation, that look to use the circumstances to continue to better themselves, and who are committed to helping others even when everything points to fending for yourself, is more powerful now than it has ever been.

Brothers, we encourage you to go and show the world, wherever you are at, what it means to be a Phi in this moment of time. The world needs us.

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Inside however, all was calm and bright (including some leftover holiday decor to compete with our Phi Delt flags and banners) as we gathered — 300 strong — for this January rite of passage. T-shirts, mugs, and other swag for sale claimed attention as brothers checked in and grabbed their packets, assignments, and temporary roommates. The latter is designed to enhance the shared experiences of small groups (eight to 10 brothers) into pods, renamed for the Greek alphabet. My Xi Chapter met eight times in sub-groups and then came together in plenary for more serious discussions around stress, alcohol, and sexual assault, and lighter forays into midnight poker and bro humor.

The food was great, including an intro to St. Louis barbecue — met with some trepidation by our Texas brothers and great delight by our ribs-deprived Northeasterners. Midst the surfeit of snacks and good cheer rested the real purpose of the convocation — to learn what it means to be a true leader; how to display real and authentic masculinity; and how to emulate the examples of some well-known and lesser-known Phis who daily walk that talk.

Our keynote and large group speakers ranged from our own GHQ leadership to business leaders to clinical psychologists — all bearing their own Phi Delt banners with messages of inspiration, caution, and life lessons designed to help us become the best versions of ourselves.

In our small groups — intimate on purpose and scattered throughout the now familiar airport Renaissance Hotel (gracious hosts indeed) — we reviewed the key messages and dissected their application to our own chapters back home. Every sub-meeting began and ended with ritual, a reminder of how powerful are these shared practices to each chapter, gaining greater pride, proficiency, and comfort with each re-enactment (though our singing could probably be improved exponentially!).

As a new addition, there were some specific breakout educational sessions, self-selected, on a range of chapter topics. The conversations were intense and illuminating, with subjects ranging from depression, drugs and alcohol, to difficult conversations, conflict resolution, and celebrations. For a guy like me, fifty-eight years since my own initiation, these discussions were revelatory in their honesty and personal exposure. “Shifts do indeed happen” and, almost sixty years out, I could not have been more impressed with the range of opinions and healthy dialog that accompanied each break-out.

So, another successful PLC is in the history books and a great way to start the new year. Group hugs are in order.

Brother John “Charlie” Ford
Maryland Alpha, ’64
Bond# 778

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The holiday season is upon us! With the season comes an incredible opportunity for your chapter’s brotherhood to flourish before some well-needed time off. Ending the first term with great brotherhood events inspired by the season of giving will set the tone for the return to campus in the New Year, end the term on all the right notes, give your members a quick reprieve from the academic stresses of exam season, and instill an increased sense of brotherhood that is monumentally important when seeking to welcome new men into your family come winter recruitment.

The holiday season is particularly special for us Phis, given the Snowball Rebellion and the Fraternity’s founding on December 26. If your chapter isn’t wrapping up the term with brotherhood events, consider starting this year, and continuing the tradition annually!

A few great event ideas include:

Holiday Potluck

Set an evening for your chapter’s holiday potluck! Encourage all of your members to gather at the chapter house, or another common space, and have each brother bring a food item. This method is the most financially sound way of gathering a Phi-worthy feast. Create a DoodlePoll or Google Doc to check off the essentials and to ensure everyone brings different food!

Secret Santa

Select one chapter member, potentially the brotherhood chairman, pass around a Secret Santa form at the next chapter meeting. Have each brother indicate his name and some hobbies and interests. From the forms, randomly pair each chapter brother with another brother, and ensure the pairings stay secret. Set a limit and have each brother secretly come up with a gift using the respective brother’s interests. Exchange the gifts at chapter meeting or the Holiday Potluck!

House Decorating

Take a break from exams and studying and gather at your chapter house to decorate it for the holidays. This time off is great for team building, bonding, and enjoying each other’s company, not to mention tidying up your facility before the break!

Holiday-Grams

Get together and package up some holiday grams with candy, treats, and a nice message from your chapter to the recipient. These little gifts are affordable to make and send a great message this holiday season! Drop them off at other Greek houses, meetings, classrooms, and other people that may truly benefit from a nice gesture this season!

Hand out Hot Chocolate

Gather some brothers and go celebrate the season of giving by handing out some hot chocolate in a high traffic area. This gesture is affordable and is proof that the little things count! Make sure to wear your letters!

Volunteer at a Food Shelter

Remember not all folks are so blessed this season. Helping to make meals and packaging food at your local food shelter is an easy act of volunteerism but means the world to those families in need.

Sponsor a Family

Many chapters have gone through local non-profits to identify a family in need. Especially this season, a family, or families, could benefit from a group of campus leaders sponsoring them. Organize a toy drive, cook holiday meals, and spin by their place to carol. You might just make a family in need’s Christmas the most special time of the year.

Happy holidays brothers! Have a safe, relaxing, and prosperous holiday season!

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Fraternity attrition is an issue that many groups struggle with but don’t prepare for until it becomes a reality. The necessity of signing bids always seems to take the forefront in the conversation about maintaining a chapter’s or colony’s health and well-being. However, attrition happens, and it can take a tremendous toll on your group.

One of the principle reasons why men leave your organization is because they’re lacking the crucial connections that the Fraternity strives to provide. They don’t feel at home, they don’t feel like they belong, and they lack the relationships that are anchors to a healthy fraternity.

An effective way to combat this problem is to form rotating brotherhood groups. This is a strategy that Phi Delta Theta expansion teams utilize during their colony recruitment campaigns to tackle the lack of connection that comes with bringing 25-80 new members together in a short period of time. It has proven to be very successful.

Brotherhood groups are a fun and dynamic way to counteract or prevent cliques, but more importantly, an incredible way of encouraging conversation about goals, values, and strategy that will benefit your group. These groups capitalize on the success that other strategies (i.e. Big Brother programs) bring but go even further and offer additional benefits.

Simply enter all the members from the desired group, be it a Phikeia class, colony, or entire chapter, into a random team generator. When you’ve built your teams, begin collaboration with chapter leadership on what discussions each group should have during their time together. Encourage your brotherhood groups to gather at least once that week to do something fun, get to know each other better, and discuss the questions you’ve chosen.

Potential discussion points could include:

• Why did you join Phi Delta Theta?
• Where do you see this chapter in one, three, five & ten years-time?
• What do you dislike most about campus culture? How can Phi Delta Theta fix that?
• What would it take for Phi Delta Theta to be worth your commitment?
• What are you most excited about within Phi Delta Theta?
• What do you want Phi Delta Theta’s reputation on campus to be? How do we get there?

At the next chapter/colony meeting, have the groups share what they did to bond and what they discussed during their time together. This will encourage a group-wide discussion and inspire fun things to do for the next brotherhood group. The following week or month, draw new groups, and begin again! When your organization is made up of your friends, and men who share the same vision you do, you’ve found your home.

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The evening gathering of 160 people included: President Lambert and his wife; Associate Dean, Casey Heckler; Faculty Advisor, Bill Kubik; current Hanover students; President of the Phi Delta Theta General Council, Dr. Chris Brussalis, Chairman of the Phi Delta Theta Foundation, Ed Whipple, Past President of the Phi Delta Theta General Council, Tony Ambrose, and other key Phi Delta Theta officers, volunteers, and Hanover alumni from every decade since 1940. Various presentations and acknowledgements were made, and the original 1868 charter was on display.

Originally proposed in 1861 at Hanover, the Phi Delt chapter was not chartered officially until December 14, 1868, once the Civil War had ended and men returned back to campus. Approximately 2,000 initiates over the years have remained an active part of the Hanover community. Men from Indiana Epsilon had a hand in carrying Phi Delta Theta to the University of Missouri (1870), Monmouth College (1871), Wooster College, and Cornell University (both 1872).

In 1881, the chapter pushed for sororities on campus with Delta Gamma being the first. For the first two years, Delta Gamma meetings were held in the Phi Delta Theta Hall. In the early morning on December 19, 1941, a devastating fire destroyed Old Classic Hall on campus, where brothers of Indiana Epsilon helped rescue many students. In the 1960s, the chapter helped lead efforts for radical change in the General Fraternity’s membership requirements, standing on the side of inclusivity. Indiana Epsilon has a proud history of involvement with the General Fraternity at all levels.

These 150 years of joint partnership have been filled with many successes – the Phi Delta Theta motto of “To become the greatest version of yourself” has fit so well with Hanover’s mission which states “Hanover College is a challenging and supportive community whose members take responsibility for lifelong inquiry, transformative learning and meaningful service.”

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“I have seen a huge jump in personal growth after joining Phi Delt, and it was sort of addicting in a sense. I have experienced what my Phikeia educator meant when he said, “You get out what you put in.” It motivated me to keep going so I could continue to become a better version of myself. To put it in other words, the Fraternity has given so much to me already, and I want to reciprocate that back to it. There is no difference in how I was taught versus my peers, what matters is how I respond to those teachings.”

I asked a few of the most motivated and engaged new initiates within the chapter I advise about what motivates them to become engaged in a meaningful way as a contributing chapter member. The quotes included in this post are what I received.

Every semester, chapters initiate new members into the Fraternity with the hope that they will become the next leaders of the chapter; that they will find ways to push the chapter to greater heights, and to be some of the most engaged members the chapter has seen in recent memory. Yet, at times, our chapters look at the newly initiated members and see some who are engaged and motivated and others who disengage and rarely contribute. The chapter then looks to the next group of men they recruit and hope that results will be different.

A year passes by, and it’s no different. Why does this happen? Moreover, how do we keep newly initiated members engaged and motivated after the Phikeia education period? Below are a few tips for chapters to think about as they work to maintain engagement of newly initiated members following Phikeia education.

Know Your Phikeias… Truly Know Your Phikeias

Each summer during the Phikeia Educators College, the faculty spends time with Phikeia educators discussing how to facilitate an environment within their program that results in true learning and growth. To do this, members of the chapter’s Phikeia Education Board must build a relationship with each Phikeia individually and at a greater depth. They need to know much more than surface level information: major, year in school and where they call home. They should learn more about their motivations for joining the chapter, their hopes and wishes for membership in Phi Delt, their strengths and areas of improvement, their successes and their challenges, their background, life experiences, and what they are bringing to the Phi Delt experience.

By knowing your Phikieas at a deeper level early on, you can better identify ways in which they can be motivated and engaged beyond the new member period.

Immediately Involve Newly Initiated Brothers in Ways That Are Meaningful to Them

Committees. Committees. Committees. Scholarship Committee, Social Committee, Recruitment Committee, Phikeia Education Committee, Philanthropy Committee, Risk Management Committee, Public Relations Committee, Alumni Committee, Judicial Board, Campus Interfraternity Council Committees. There are so many opportunities for newly initiated members to be involved and engage with their chapter beyond simply attending events and chapter meetings. Find ways to provide newly initiated members with the opportunity to serve on a committee. Through this involvement, they can better understand how the chapter operates, observe motivated and engaged members in their leadership roles, and feel as if they are contributing to the future direction of the chapter.

The caution with this is not to create committees just to have them on paper, but to truly use them and engage more members in the chapter.

Do Not Pressure

We’ve all seen it. The Phikeia who joins enthusiastically, is charismatic and passionate about the Fraternity, and has incredible leadership potential and natural qualities that inspire those around him to be better. He wants to be as involved as possible the second he walks through the door as a potential new member. This is the guy who talks about how he aspires to be a future chapter leader during his Phikeia period. And then, a year later, he is nowhere to be seen. He’s not engaged, does not demonstrate motivation, and is not planning to take on a leadership role within the chapter.

So what happened?

Sometimes, the pressure of wanting an individual to be an instant leader can be detrimental. While you may be excited about someone’s leadership potential, let him ease into it. Provide him with various leadership opportunities that can help set him up for success, but do not overwhelm him. If he dives in too quickly, it can be a challenge. He may not be able to understand who he wants to be as a leader, or what he may bring to leadership roles at the time your brothers are telling him that he’s going to be the next great leader of your chapter. The result could include losing an individual with great leadership potential, because he never fully met the expectations placed upon him.

With that said, you can and should begin to have early conversations with Phikeias who demonstrate sheer leadership potential and talent. Help guide them through the experience and advise them to set realistic and timely expectations to complete their goals.

Intentional Big Brother Programs

“After my Phikeia period ended, the thought of not being involved within the Fraternity never crossed my mind. It was something I wanted to do. I believe I built such strong relationships that it made me want to stay committed to the Fraternity as a whole. I also grew a very strong relationship with my Phi Delt Big Brother which keeps me present within the chapter.”

Big Brother programs vary within our chapters. The ultimate goal of a Big Brother program is to provide each Phikeia with a mentor and a guide, who they connect with, to provide sound advice, counsel, and support. The Big Brother programs we have should be very intentional. This goes back to knowing Phikeias at a deeper level.

Some questions to think about:

• How do you create a pairing that is best for both the Phikeia and the Big Brother?
• How do you ensure that you have criteria and minimum requirements for being a Big Brother?
• How do you create accountability for Big Brothers who take on the responsibility of mentoring and guiding a Phikeia?

If you want to motivate and engage Phikeias after their new member education period, why would you pair them with an unengaged and unmotivated member of your chapter? Apply a critical lens to your Big Brother program and start making intentional pairings. Build a structure that allows for meaningful mentorship to occur between Big and Little Brothers during the Phikeia education period and beyond.

Involve Newer Members in Higher Level Chapter Conversations

When appropriate, find ways to include newly initiated members into higher-level chapter conversations. For example, invite a few newly initiated members to an Executive Committee meeting. Bring a few newly initiated members to the Interfraternity Council meeting and to meetings with the campus-based Fraternity & Sorority Advisor, the House Corporation, or the Chapter Adviser so they can start to learn the bigger picture. Seek their opinion of matters that have an influence on the chapter.

Continually Encourage Reflection on Why Members Joined in the First Place

“I found it easy to stay motivated and involved after my Phikeia semester. I can attribute it directly to Morrison’s philosophy: To do what ought to be done, but would not have been done unless I did it, I thought to be my duty.” This philosophy reminds me to continually devote myself to my chapter and to serve the chapter and my brothers to my greatest abilities. It inspires me to live out what it means to be a Phi every day.”

As a Chapter Adviser for over a decade, I have seen hundreds of members come through the chapter. I am always curious to learn why some members, who received the same educational content as their peers, choose to engage differently and exhibit greater levels of motivation. It is a given that every person is unique and provides his own perspective, but we must capitalize on this as we formally initiate our new members. Reflection is key. If you can encourage your newest members to reflect on the reason(s) they sought out and chose Phi Delt in the first place, you will be more successful in finding ways to meaningfully keep them motivated and engaged.

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Ah, Spring Break. A time to relax, enjoy, and spend time with brothers before heading back to school for the dreaded end of the semester. For many of you, this week may be your favorite time of year, and most of you are likely embarking on some type of Spring Break adventures. Some of you are probably heading home to spend time with your family, while others may be volunteering for an Alternative Spring Break Program. But chances are, most of you are quite possibly heading somewhere close to a beach, hoping to have the best week of your lives.

While Spring Break can make for some of the most memorable and fun times of your college career, it can also be one of the most dangerous weeks in the life of a college student. While I want to tell you to alternate your drinks with water (and you should), I want you to consider that there are many practical ways to keep yourself and your brothers safe during your Spring Break activities, whatever they may be. We want you to have fun, but we also want you to protect yourself and your brothers as much as possible.

Use the buddy system

While this may sound like something a third-grade teacher once told you, one of the best ways for you to stay safe this Spring Break is to make sure that you always have someone with you. When you’re traveling with a large group, it can be easy to lose track of people. The best way to avoid losing your group is by always having a buddy. Before you leave town, download the Find My Friends app so you can always keep track of each other.

Track your consumption

The average male consumes 18 drinks per day during Spring Break, which for most of you, could be potentially very dangerous. Consuming this amount of alcohol can lead to alcohol poisoning and unintentional injuries, which is the leading cause of Spring Break incidents for men. Realistically, I know it’s unlikely that you will count the number of drinks you’ve had, but there are many apps that will track your drinks and calculate your BAC for you. Try downloading InteiliDrink or R-U-Buzzed to help keep track and keep you safe. The goal is to never get yourself into a situation where you are not aware of your surroundings or your actions, so tracking your consumption is key.

Don’t “do it for the snap”

In fact, you’re better off not posting what you’re doing on social media at all. Doing something risky to show off on social media may seem like a clever idea at the time, but trust me when I tell you that this is never a good idea. What happens on Spring Break doesn’t always stay on Spring Break, especially if you ‘re sharing it with the world.

Ask for consent

If you take nothing else away from this post, I hope that you will remember that before you engage in any activity this Spring Break, the best way to protect yourself is to ask for consent. A recent study showed that women’s two biggest concerns when attending Spring Break activities were 1. Being taken advantage of and 2. Being drugged. Trust me when I tell you that women go away for Spring Break to relax and have fun, but women want things to happen on their own terms. Regardless of what someone is wearing or how they are acting towards you, you must always respect peoples’ boundaries. The best way for you to protect yourself this Spring Break is to always ask for consent.

When in doubt, intervene

If you see a situation where your brothers or someone else is at risk, intervene. This could be directly stepping in or even just causing a distraction – anything to allow the situation to take a turn for a more positive outcome. The bystander effect is in full force during Spring Break, but it’s on us to make sure that we’re looking out for the people around us. If you feel you can’t directly intervene, the best thing you can do is report what you saw or heard and ask someone else to step in.

Do what ought to be done

My final piece of advice to you this Spring Break season is that if you consistently refer to the principles of Phi Delta Theta, you can’t go wrong. When you are in a situation that calls for action, step up and be the man who takes responsibility. We want you to have a fun Spring Break, but we also want you to have fond, positive memories that you can look back on for years to come. At the end of the day, as you’ve heard repeatedly, do what ought to be done.

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Every moment of our lives is filled with stress. Our body preforms its basic functions, such as breathing, heartbeat, and digestion, in response to internal and external stressors throughout our entire life. Quite simply, a life without stress is impossible; however, how we manage stress and stressful situations is immensely important to our own mental health and wellness. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), “Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” Managing stress is a major component of overall wellness, and although I will be concentrating on mental wellness, it is important to note that coping with stress impacts all aspects of our life. Fortunately for many of us, our fraternity experience within Phi Delta Theta can provide some of the best supports and opportunities to cope with stress through use of our own coping skills combined with available social supports.

As an undergraduate, the stress of classes, midterms, fraternity obligations, jobs/work studies, research and labs, interviews for jobs or internships, and applications to scholarships, graduate schools, medical school, or employment, can impact our mental wellness significantly. You may also participate in college sports, intramural sports, clubs, other Greek-related activities, philanthropies, and community service projects, which adds to things that we must manage in our busy schedules. We also have the added stress of maintaining relationships with our family, friends, significant others, and fraternity brothers. For our seniors, there is the added stress of your upcoming graduation. Just looking at that list of stressors can feel a bit overwhelming at times. Some stressors are temporary, such as midterms, job interviews, and a tough semester of challenging classes, while others are likely to last longer, such as interpersonal relationships, family members with series illnesses, or work-related stress. Simply put, life is stressful, but that’s okay.

As I write this, many of you are likely going through the stress of midterms, planning spring break trips or what to do while off for a week, and finishing out the remainder of the semester. These are added to your daily stressors of managing your time to study, maintaining your friendships, preparing for life after graduation or the summer between semesters, and whatever else you choose to do to occupy your time. Increases in stress are going to occur regardless of what we do, and this is just a natural part of life. Stress is always going to impact us, but the impacts can be either positive or negative.

Negative stress can be detrimental to our overall health physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially, going back to the definition of health by WHO. Negative or mismanaged stress can impact us in many ways physically, mentally, emotionally, and behaviorally. Some signs that we are not managing our stress well include headaches, fatigue, increase in colds/flu, worry, inability to concentrate, negativity, loss of confidence, irritability, depression, anger, loss of sleep, restlessness, and increases in alcohol, tobacco, illicit substance abuse, as well as engaging in risky behavior. These are just some of the signs that someone is not managing stress well, and each person is going to differ greatly based upon the stressor, the perception of their ability to manage stress, and how well they can cope with the stressor.

So what can we do to manage our stress as an individual and as a fraternity chapter? Well individually, we can identify our sources of stress, control the controllable stressors and let go of those that are outside of our control, find ways of coping that work best for us, practice a healthy lifestyle, strive for balance, stay organized with good time management skills, prioritize tasks, maintain a routine, and engage in social support. This can take shape in many different ways and is always tailored to the individual. In a practical approach, this may be as simple as keeping a list of things to do and due dates, going to the gym regularly, avoiding distractors when studying, such as social media and texting, taking time to relax and just listen to a favorite song or watch a funny video clip, or take time to get off of campus. Sometimes the little things that we do to manage our stress are most important and unfortunately the first to go when we feel large amounts of stress. The possibilities are endless and each person has to take responsibility to try and practice different ways of coping to find those techniques that work best for them to manage their stressors.

In the context of our fraternity chapters, we hopefully have a well-developed social support system that we can utilize when feeling stressed out. Chapters can hold brotherhood dinners after chapter, all go to the dining hall around the same time, have a flag football game every Friday after classes are done for the week, go and do the community service and philanthropy events for other organizations, pass the gavel in chapter, provide time to just relax with a movie night, going to sporting events, or other campus activities. Again, these don’t always have to be large organized activities, but just engaging with our brothers and sharing experiences can build those strong relationships that help add resiliency when an individual experiences stress. Just having people around us that support us is often enough for us to cope with any stressor in a healthy way.

So as the semester continues to move forward, remember to do the little things for yourself and for your brothers. Create a list of things that you can do when feeling stressed out that are healthy and helpful to you, and then go out and do those things that help you cope with any stress in your life. At the end of the day, life will be stressful enough by itself, so go and actively manage the stressors that you can to promote you becoming the greatest version of yourself, and help your brothers do the same.

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New York Zeta Alumni Corporation President Bruce Clayton ’89 was presented with Phi Delta Theta’s Distinguished Alumnus Award at the event. Clayton also announced the launch of the public phase of a fund raising campaign to raise $300,000 for the New York Zeta Fund to be used for need-based scholarships for New York Zeta members. The New York Fund is a chapter endowment fund within the Phi Delta Theta Foundation. During the private phase of this campaign, $168,000 was raised in leadership gifts and gift pledges which represents 56% of the campaign goal. Clayton said  “the chapter’s alumni and undergraduate leaders share a vision to move New York Zeta towards being need-blind in membership fees for all brothers with demonstrated financial need – keeping pace with the aid students receive from Colgate today to ensure that everyone who receives a bid has the access and opportunities to join the Fraternity. Being a brother in Phi Delta Theta should not be restrained in any way based on whether one can afford to pay to join our organization.”

According to New York Zeta’s Centennial Chairman Bart Hale ’04, “The evening was a triumph for Phi Delta Theta. It was amazing to see so many New York Zeta Phis come together to share stories, celebrate 100 years of history at Colgate, and renew our common bonds in the fraternity.”

Photo Credits to Nahuel Fanjul-Arguijo

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It’s not your typical dorm room – fairly large with a high ceiling, probably a bit more spacious than a typical university dorm room of today…rather drab battleship gray in color, no fancy moldings, mattresses upturned for the summer season, two standard desks with pedestrian chairs…two built-in closets, probably added in the early 1900’s. Nothing really special here, other than two brass plaques that indicate that this was the room in Old North Hall (now called Elliott Hall) that has a very special meaning for Phis worldwide.

Miami University in Oxford, Ohio, the 10^th oldest public university in the United States, was chartered in 1809 when Thomas Jefferson was still President. Three story Old North Hall was built for $7,000 in 1825 as a male residence hall for 35 students and designed in the Federal style after Connecticut Hall at Yale University in New Haven. Little was done to modernize it until 1899, when steam heat replaced fireplaces, electric lights subbed for oil lamps and porcelain wash basins and chamber pots were traded for modern bathroom amenities.

As one stands between its two parallel windows on a hot summer day and on an equally deserted Ohio campus, one can imagine the gathering of six tail coated students in 1848 in crisp shirts and ascots. The room was probably heated by a fireplace or a wood burning stove. A carpet undoubtedly covered the bare wooden floor to preserve warmth in the colder months and, in the absence of closets, large chiffarobes (or wardrobe chests) were allotted to each resident for his personal belongings. Mid-Victorian desks were crowned with oil lamps for ease of reading and there was possibly a Bible on prominent display for these young men were, after all, in ministerial training.

It was in this room that Phi Delta Theta’s vision became reality and where its six noble founders composed and signed the first Bond, handwritten and still preserved at General Headquarters, just a few blocks away. To this day, that same Bond is hand-copied for every new chapter, preserving as best it can the amazingly complex script of the early writers when cursive penmanship was an art form.

As I stood there during the most recent Kleberg Emerging Leaders Institute this summer, my first ever visit to Oxford as a Phi of fifty five years, I was struck by this churning in my brain as we read The Bond aloud – the inevitable song worm that catches us and won’t let go until exhausted. The song, The Room Where it Happened, from the highly lauded Broadway production of Hamilton, encompasses so many of those feelings and emotions:

God help and forgive me
I wanna build
Something that’s gonna
Outlive me
I wanna be in the room where it happens

Brother Ford was a Fellow at the 2017 Kleberg Emerging Leaders Institute. Alongside other alumni, John was immersed in the program and received an on-the-ground look at the leadership development that occurs at the Institute.

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The 62 men you see in this photo stood behind your family today at your Daddy’s funeral. We were there representing hundreds more who weren’t able to be there. We were all there because your Daddy Roger “Blue” Mhoon was a truly amazing friend to all of us and influenced our lives along with so many others.

We all want you to know that while there is nothing we can say to make any of this make sense to you right now, we are committed to standing beside you, behind you, and in front of you if needed – for the rest of your life.

You see Eason, we all took an oath many years ago that we would take care of each other – no matter what. And today, the commitment we made to your awesome Daddy carries over to you.

• If you need someone to take you fishing, we have rods and boats.
• If you need someone to throw a baseball with, we have gloves.
• If you need someone to go to a Razorback game with, we have tickets.
• If you need someone to call the Hogs with, Blue taught us well.
• If you need someone to help with homework, we’ll do our very best.
• If you need someone to hang out with, we have time.
• If you want to hear stories about your Daddy, we have a TON!

As you see in the photo, we left a spot in the middle for your Daddy, but that spot is also for you. Eason, as of today, you are an honorary Phi Delt as far as we are concerned. If someday you decide to not be in a fraternity or choose a fraternity different than Phi Delta Theta, you will always share a bond with every man you see in this photo (and many more).

Your Daddy taught us so much about life, and now we are happy to share those same lessons with you.

We are here for you everyday, in every way.

May the Lord Bless You and Keep You Eason, and your sweet Mommy.

Love,
The Men of Phi Delta Theta – YOUR Brothers in the Bond.

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One of the defining moments during my Phikeia experience occurred when my big brother asked me a compelling question: “What has happened in your life that has made you who you are today?” My answer wasn’t a bad breakup, a family relationship that had deteriorated, or a specific event. I wanted to share that managing two separate mental illnesses has made a profound impact on me. At the time, I felt this was not what the Fraternity or my big brother would want me to reveal. Though I don’t recall my specific answer at the moment, nothing has impacted my development as a human more than my battle with mental illness.

At the age of 22, I have learned how to handle my bouts with depression and General Anxiety Disorder as well as possible. But, for the majority of my life, I struggled to understand and cope with these feelings. By sharing my story and struggles, I am hopeful that I can help others realize that the inner demons you may battle do not define you. It is very possible to live a fulfilling and productive life.

I first started noticing signs of depression in high school, but as a teenage male, I was truly afraid to show my emotions. Art was the only forum that allowed me to share my feelings towards these issues. This, however, did not come until after something that I am still recovering from  happened. In December of 2009 at the age of 16, I tried to take my own life. I will spare the specific details, but I had hit that point. As I write this post, I still struggle to accurately describe my state of mind that evening. To start, I was your typical high school student, but I really did not feel like I fit in anywhere at my high school of 2,000 students in the upper middle class area of Fort Wayne, Indiana. My family wasn’t wealthy, I didn’t play high school sports, and I just didn’t “fit in” with the classmates I had grown up with from second grade to high school. But, I persevered.

To say the least, I had very interesting relationship with my father growing up. My mom and dad separated earlier than I can remember, and my dad lived in every state possible besides Indiana for the first ten years of my life. I would see him a handful times throughout the year before he moved back when I was 10. However, this would be short lived as my dad made a few mistakes and again began moving often for work. Until I was about 16, I tried to have a decent relationship with my dad, but at that point, too much had built, and I quit trying. The feeling was pretty reciprocal, and we didn’t talk for eight months. This angered me for a long time, but once again I persevered.

By the time I hit high school, my mom was my best friend. She still is to this day in every way, shape, and form. We have had our differences. I was never the perfect child, especially in high school, but we dealt with each other. She made continual sacrifices for me that I will never be able to repay. She worked a third shift job five days a week, so I was on my own from 8 p.m. until 4-6 a.m. each night. I felt lonely A LOT, especially while I dealt with depression and anxiety of which I had no understanding. I didn’t tell her about the my irrational thoughts, and I didn’t tell her or anybody else how much I hated being alone five nights a week. I wasn’t sleeping more than four hours a night due to the continual thoughts I was having, and I had no real forum to project myself. After four years of this though, I persevered.

I persevered through everything that culminated into the night that I hit rock bottom. This is something I often remind myself of when I have rough days. On May 25, 2010, I had a normal day at school. I arrived home and planned to spend the day playing basketball with a few of the neighborhood kids. When I arrived home, my sister’s car was unexpectedly there – It was a Tuesday, and she lived in Muncie. I will never forget the look on her face when I saw her. She was crying tears I had never seen in another person. She hugged me in a way she had never hugged me before. She had learned that day that her high school boyfriend had committed suicide. This was the moment I figured it out – Life isn’t about one person’s inner struggles, trials, and tribulations. We live for every single person who has ever made even the slightest impact on us. Life is for the family you share at home, your parents, your friends, your fraternity brothers and for whomever you have shared life. Your life matters whether you see it or not. You mean something to someone. I made a promise to my sister that day that I can happily say I have now upheld for six years.

Phi Delta Theta has and continues to play a vital role in helping me persevere. On July 27, 2014, my Uncle Terry passed away after a 20+ year battle with HIV/AIDS. I was in my first summer as an initiated member of Phi Delta Theta at the University of Southern Indiana (Indiana Lambda), and I had been selected to be one of our representatives at the Kleberg Emerging Leaders Institute. I did not attend due to my uncle’s funeral. My truck, as my chapter brothers know, is a glorious piece of machinery that chooses to work when it wants. It decided to call in sick that week. Instead of allowing me to miss my uncle’s funeral, my chapter brother, Russ, decided to drop everything, made the five hour drive to Fort Wayne to help me, and returned home at 6 a.m. the next morning to make his summer class. That is Brotherhood! I was the last person to speak at my uncle’s funeral, and it helped me find a bit of inner peace and solace with his death. We are drawn to the negative moments when we lose someone permanently. It’s human nature, but we have to learn to accept the bad and cherish the great moments. The moments of grief, depression, and anger associated with losing my uncle rocked my world and sent me on an emotional downturn, but I have persevered.

In October 2015, I had a complete breakdown. Anxiety was at an all-time high. I hadn’t been to class that week, and it was Wednesday. I called my sister with plans to transfer to Indy. I had no desire to be in Evansville. For the majority of the semester, one of my three little brothers and a pledge brother basically dragged me out of bed every morning to attend class. On the day of my breakdown, I went to my Greek Advisor, told her about how I felt, and cried in her office for about twenty minutes. We talked, she gave me the time to vent, and then she escorted me to the Campus Counseling Center to schedule an appointment. I hated the initial thought of counseling. I knew I had problems, but I couldn’t imagine counseling was going to help. Regardless, I took a chance and began to see a counselor, and I continue to do so today. This was the first real step I had ever taken to deal with my problems. It helped me realize what I was fighting against, and I learned to treat it differently than I had before. Since, I have been succeeding slowly but surely in life. I was elected IFC President and maintained my Alumni Secretary role in the chapter. As Phikeia Educator, I led the largest initiate class that the chapter has had in the past decade, and I figured out what I wanted to do with my life. I plan to be a Director of Fraternity and Sorority Life someday, and I owe that to my advisor and friend, Trish. I even turned my semester around and made the Dean’s List for the first time.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned through all of this is to stop hating the fact that I have depression and General Anxiety Disorder. I started to embrace that part of my life, and I have made it a big part of who I am. My only goal with this post is to show any individual who may be struggling with the same things that it is possible to achieve more than you think and that your life truly matters. Do not be afraid to seek help. Talk to your chapter brothers. Find a forum where you can project how you feel. Do not hate this part of you. Love every part of who you are. If you think you need professional help, get it. If you think you need medication, talk to a professional to see what they think. You are only so strong on your own, but as Phi Delts, we are never alone. I am proud to be a Phi, a fraternal man, and a twenty something male battling mental illness.

I’m going to leave you with something that has helped me deal with my mental health. It is as simple as a semicolon. A semicolon is used when an author could’ve chosen to end their sentence, but chose not to. The author is you, and the sentence is your life. Be a semicolon. Keep living, keep fighting, and love every moment of your life.

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Recruitment and pledging are where we develop the next generation of fraternity men. We hope to select and retain those individuals who exemplify our Cardinal Principles of Friendship, Sound Learning, and Rectitude, as well as live up to the standards set in The Bond of Phi Delta Theta. Ideally, the process of pledging involves taking college boys and helping them grow into fraternal men: a cycle that repeats itself each semester on many college campuses. While we should benefit from new members joining our chapters, we also take on the responsibility of assisting the growth of these individuals into the young fraternity men that we will welcome into the brotherhood: the family of Phi Delta Theta. Our brotherhood serves as a form of social support, a factor that has long been proven to support mental health in individuals.

Fraternities provide the opportunity to choose this new family: something that many people do not experience until they step onto a college campus on the first day of freshman year. When we extend a bid and welcome someone to join our fraternal family, we often assume that they are similar to us, which is highlighted by their ambitions to join our chapter. However, we must remember that the fraternal family is different in several important ways. We do not have the years of shared history that has connected us with our family of origin, and we may not be aware of the many events that an individual has experienced before reaching our doorsteps and signing a bid card. Simply put, we may not be aware of many of the key events, good or bad, that have shaped this person on their path to joining our Fraternity.

GOAT, a movie pending national release that is based upon the life experiences of Brad Land before and during his time at Clemson University, highlights how little we may know about our brothers’ and Phikeias’ personal histories. Brad Land was brutally attacked and nearly killed when his car was stolen by two strangers whom he thought he was giving a ride home. Mr. Land’s kind gesture ultimately led him to becoming a victim and survivor of extreme violence. Later, his traumatic experiences are re-triggered during his pledge process at Clemson, the hazing that he endures brings back memories and feelings of the night that he nearly lost his life. This movie provides our brotherhood with an opportunity to examine our own pledge process and how it builds our fraternal family.

Understanding an individual’s mental health begins by examining how someone functions physically, cognitively, and emotionally as compared to their peers. We often assume that if we cannot see a physical wound that the person is healthy and can tolerate any stress that they may encounter. Unfortunately, we may be unaware of the traumatic events that someone may have experienced before reaching the point of seeking membership into our Fraternity. People may have experienced great loss in their life from losing parents, siblings, caregivers, and/or friends to death or forced separation. Some individuals may have survived being bullied, may have been victims of random acts of violence, in addition to a wide range of potential physical, mental, and emotional traumas. Even the most mentally healthy individuals can have vastly different responses to traumatic events and stress, and sometimes these responses are unknown even to the person until they are subjected to later stress, such as experiencing hazing during the pledge process.

The connection between joining our fraternal family and hazing can truly become problematic, especially in the context of asking someone to trust us to help them become a fraternal man. Engaging in hazing practices places a barrier between the active members and pledges, reducing them to “less than” a brother or sometimes even less than a human being. While we verbalize a message of embracing one another, our actions communicate rejection. Hazing is often framed as a way of having individuals prove that they have earned their membership into an organization. Common hazing practices today have shifted from physical hazing to mental and emotional hazing. Instead of paddling, pledges are deprived of feeling safe and connected, and may even resurrect past traumas in order to earn the family and support that fraternity has to offer.

A family can be constructed and defined in many ways. Those who participate in hazing practices fracture the family that we wish to build. Having a member earn their membership through participation in chapter activities, such as philanthropy, leadership development, community services, attending sporting events, intramural athletics, alumni functions, mixers, and homecoming builds the family into a strong one. Such activities help these individuals prove they are becoming fraternity men not only in the presence of chapter brothers, but also the community that we live in on our respective campus communities. Those that do not demonstrate an ability to practice and demonstrate characteristics we associate with our high standards set for membership should not earn the right to be initiated. The stronger the family we build through mutual respect and unconditional positive regard, the more likely these members are to come when we personally need our fraternal family: When we experience our own hardships as we go through life.

Becoming the greatest version of ourselves involves adding those who can support us during times of high stress. Regardless of someone’s mental health, hazing is a process that not only tears down an individual’s ability to function successfully in our fraternal family, but also weakens it in the long run. Those members who grow together through the attainment of mutual goals, such as bettering their chapter on campus, winning awards, intramural or collegiate championships, and bettering their community, are likely to develop the family that is enduring and supportive even beyond the years we spend as undergraduates on our campuses.

Dr. Mark E. Pleiss was initiated into the Pennsylvania Gamma Chapter of Phi Delta Theta in Spring 2008 as Bond #1255. He graduated from Washington & Jefferson College with a BA in Psychology and a minor Sociology in 2011. While at W&J, he served the chapter in several roles, including president. After graduation, Dr. Pleiss began a doctoral program in clinical psychology at IUP, while serving as a member of the Pennsylvania Lambda CAB. He graduated with his Masters and Psy.D in Clinical Psychology from IUP. Currently, Dr. Pleiss serves as the Upsilon South Province President, and has been a faculty member for several Kleberg Emerging Leadership Institutes and the Presidents’ Leadership Conferences. Additionally, he is the Mental Health Expert on the Education Committee. He works for the Federal Bureau of Prisons as a Drug Abuse Program Coordinator at the Federal Correction Complex- Hazelton, in West Virginia. He is also a fan of professional and college football, and enjoys hiking, cooking, and traveling to new cities.

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The men of Iowa Beta at the University of Iowa are once again in mourning. Our beloved brother, Jay Burger, passed away on June 25 at the age of 24 after a 21-month battle with Ewing’s Sarcoma. This comes just less than one month after our brother Nik Jiruska was taken by the same horrible disease. Though the hearts of his friends, family, and brothers are heavy with loss, it is through reflecting on the amazing impact Jay had on all of our lives that will lighten the load.

Jay was initiated into the Iowa Beta Chapter of Phi Delta Theta in the fall of 2010 and easily established himself as a leader both among his close friends and on the Executive Board as the Social Chairman. He lived and breathed Phi Delt. Jay loved to organize activities and events to get his brothers together to simply have fun, both on a whim and as a part of his executive duties. Whether it was socials, group trips over breaks, intramurals, or random pick-up games, Jay was always more concerned that everyone else was having fun and being included.

Continuing to highlight that desire for inclusiveness, Jay possessed a special ability to bridge the gap among the brothers from different grades. If it were not for Jay bringing guys together at these events or while just hanging out, many of the close friendships that still exist among his brothers today may have never happened. Jay was at his best when fostering relationships among those who he cherished, and he truly cherished all of his Phi Delt brothers. So much so that he made you feel like the best friend anyone could have, and everyone had something unique over which they could bond with him.

Once that bond was forged, you were sure to hang out with him, and pretty soon you’d figure out that Jay loved being a 90’s kid. He was always good for an obscure 90’s TV or movie reference. His go-to sources were Legends of the Hidden Temple and The Mighty Ducks. If he had say over the music, it usually consisted of 80’s and early 90’s jams. Jay also used his quick wit and sharp one-liners to make funny conversations even funnier. Furthermore, whenever he made a jab or joke about another brother, it always reached a level that made the person on the other end of the joke laugh along hysterically. It was not in Jay’s nature to be hurtful.

One of the many things that brothers connected over with Jay was his passion for sports. While many of us think ourselves a sports aficionado, one would be hard pressed to find someone more passionate and knowledgeable – especially when it came to the Denver Broncos, Dallas Mavericks, Chicago Blackhawks and Cubs. Jay was also very opinionated and usually pulled out some fact or statistic to prove why one of his teams was going all the way that year or why Marian Hossa and Dirk Nowitzki are the best players in their respective sports. Even though he was in the midst of his treatment, Jay was overjoyed and got to see opinion become reality when he witnessed in person the Denver Broncos win Super Bowl 50.

As a student at the University of Iowa, Jay earned a degree in Business Marketing and an Entrepreneurship certificate. He used the skills learned from these classes during an internship with the Chicago Bulls where he had first hand input on many of the team’s in game promotional efforts.

Jay didn’t just like to watch though. He was extremely competitive and loved to play basketball and pond hockey. It would not have been a normal day around the Phi Delt house if you didn’t hear Jay trying to convince people to head to the rec center for a pick-up game. After he was diagnosed, Jay took to golf, and the game quickly became an escape from any sort of fears and worries he was facing at the time. That joy and escapism was then amplified this past April when he attended the Masters tournament and got to walk the most sacred golf course on the planet.

All of this is just further proof that Jay lived in the now and for the moment. He strived to experience life to the fullest with those he loved and never wanted anyone to think he was not himself. He was a man of character and the personification of friendship.

Jay is survived by his mother Kelly Jo Golson, his step-father of more than 20 years Mark Golson, his loving siblings Luke and Sophie Golson and his beloved grandparents Joe and Rae-Jean Young and Tom Golson. He is also survived by his father James Burger and his wife Beth Burger and siblings Mehgan, Matthew and Peyton “Nico” Burger and grandparents Royce and Betty Burger and Bob and Marjorie Adams. Finally, Jay is survived by all of his Iowa Beta Brothers in the Bond.

Two symbols of Phi Delta Theta are a shield and a sword. Though it may be an appropriate time to put up our guard or our “shield” in mourning over the loss of our brother, that is not how Jay lived nor how he would want us to live. As Psalm 27:17 states, “As iron sharpens iron, so one friend sharpens another.” And while we may be a duller blade today without him, he would want us to rise up and sharpen each other with our proverbial “sword” and attack life. That is who Jay was: a fighter all the way until the end.

We would be so lucky to live as Jay did. We are so lucky to have called him a friend and brother – and to call him such still, since he is and always will be in our hearts.

In coelo quies est.

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Silver metal. Measuring roughly an inch in length and barely an eighth of an inch wide. Words engraved on their faces such as “Estes Park,” “Miami Beach,” and “Oxford,” along with years like “1932,” “1950,” and “2014.” These descriptors are found on the bars collected by brothers at each convention to designate how many they have attended. These silver bars are also known as “rungs” due to the fact that when linked together, they resemble ladders. Thus, the term “convention ladder” came to be. Each rung reads the city and year in which the convention took place.

Research to determine the history of the convention ladder found that this memento of conventions past is decades old. However, research did not determine a specific year of origin or convention that marked the start of this tradition. The earliest pictorial evidence of convention ladders dates back to the 1908 Convention in which a brother in the forefront of the convention photo is wearing a ladder with nine rungs! With the conventions taking place every two years, this dates the first rung back to the 1891 Convention if he attended each convention consecutively.

Earliest known written mentions of the rungs date back to the 1914 Convention. A 1914 edition of The Scroll quotes a letter written by a Massachusetts Alpha Phi reflecting on his convention experience, “so enjoyable was the entire convention that most of the delegates bought convention ‘ladders’, and swore they would have their first reunion, the fates permitting, at the next national convention of [Phi Delta Theta]” (Ira M. Dempsey, Williams ’15). The next mention of the ladders was seen within a 1933 edition of The Scroll written by Illinois Alpha Phi, Frank J.R. Mitchell, “many years ago the practice began of wearing silver bars to indicate the conventions attended and the lengthening ‘ladders’ seen at convention are a striking evidence of the loyalty of old convention-goers. It is hoped that the next convention will witness the lengthening of many ‘ladders’ both long and short.”

Piecing together a history of this proud tradition was difficult due to the fact that the General Headquarters did not officially produce and purchase these bars initially. Individuals themselves, it would seem, purchased them through an outside vendor. Additionally, some of the brothers pictured in photos with rungs are members of the Chapter Grand and not available for comment on how they went about obtaining their ladders.

Robert J. Miller (New Mexico ’50), Executive Vice President Emeritus and current Fraternity Historian, owns the longest convention ladder at 34 rungs. It will soon increase to 35 with this year’s convention in Savannah. His first bar is from the 1948 Oxford Convention. According a 1954 volume of The Scroll, “the previous record was held by the late ‘Polly’ Ruick [P.P.G.C.*] who had 26 rungs on his convention ladder at the 1950 Chicago Convention – his last.” Even before Brother Ruick, the longest had been owned by George Banta Sr., whose ladder was 19 rungs long. Brother Banta had first attended convention in 1878 and his last was in 1930. With 52 years between his first and last conventions, that means he attended 26 conventions, which raises the question of why he only had 19 rungs? When did the rungs start? These questions still remain along with others. We might never know the full history behind this convention tradition. What we can say for certain though is well said by Past President of the General Council Scott Mietchen, “as Phis attend more conventions, the ladders lengthen, and provide striking evidence of a Phi’s devotion to the Fraternity.”

Phi Delta Theta’s 81^st Biennial Convention is quickly approaching, and more than 600 Phis will flood into the historic streets of Savannah, Georgia. Convention has been lauded as not only a time for legislative action in an effort to adapt to changing times, but also an opportunity to celebrate together our great Fraternity and our Bond as brothers in an unique environment. Whether this will be your first convention, or your 31^st, consider getting yourself that silver bar with the word “Savannah” and numbers “2016” engraved on its face. It will act as a memento of one of the greatest Phi Delt experiences you may ever have.

Addendum:

In the article posted on June 9th of this year, I stated that the earliest pictorial evidence of the convention ladders in use was from the year 1908. A recent development has occurred to provide us a bit more insight into the history of this convention tradition. In the General Headquarters building there are a number of vaults. In one of these vaults, by pure happenstance, CEO Bob Biggs wandered upon an “artifact”, if you will, while searching for a completely unrelated item. What he found was the oldest Convention Ladder known to our organization. The ladder was owned by the now deceased Samuel “Polly” Ruick, President of General Council (1908-1910), who was mentioned in the initial piece for his appearance in a picture featuring him and his 26-rung ladder. That picture was from his last convention in 1950. The first bar on his rung? Philadelphia – 1896.

Like before, questions remain and we may never know all the answers. For example, were the ladders and rungs made as early as 1896? Or were they made later and delegates retroactively added rungs for past conventions they had attended? The answers likely have been laid to rest with brothers in the Chapter Grand. What does remain true is that another rung was earned by hundreds of Phis in Savannah in June 2016 and as the ladders for many Phi brothers continue to grow longer, so does this time honored tradition.

*Stands for Past President of the General Council.

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The sudden death of this beloved assistant professor of history, scholar and student, fraternity brother, family man, friend and colleague has shocked thousands in two states. Schmidt grew up in the small rural hometown community of Peabody, Kansas where he remained strongly connected each holiday and vacation cycle.

Schmidt’s higher education journey began at Emporia State University where he was initiated into Phi Delta Theta Fraternity, eventually serving as chapter president. He was inducted into Order of Omega and became a student senator who would be elected student body president. Brother Schmidt was inducted into numerous honorary societies and was named Distinguished Senior of his class. While he earned his master’s degree, he was the chapter’s graduate adviser.

Ethan Schmidt earned his PhD in History at the University of Kansas, and his expertise and interests were in Native American ethohistory, Atlantic history and colonial British North America. He had published two scholarly books and numerous papers at the time of his death at 39.

“He was a remarkable student. He was one of the best students I ever had and I was thrilled he went on to a career in teaching history. He was on his road to being one of the great scholars of American history.”

– Dr. Karen Manners Smith, professor of history at Emporia State University

Many more in Kansas and Mississippi have written in tribute.

“Ethan entered his freshman year fully prepared to learn, engage, grow and experience the new chapter of life before him. He was exuberant about life and career, family and friends. His innate friendliness and his exuberance affected those around him. As he stepped-up to lead as an undergraduate, and later as an academician and professor, Ethan’s success and sphere of influence increased.”

– Roger Heineken, Kansas Epsilon alumnus and chapter adviser

“Ethan Schmidt was nothing less than a rock-star on this campus. When we met soon after we both arrived here in 2013, I immediately liked him. He was engaging, smart, and giving, and I knew he would have an impact on this campus. In fact, he has had an amazing impact. I have heard so many positive comments about his teaching and advising. His leadership of our First Year Seminar program was superb. At the start-up of this year’s FYS on the football field, we were together for the special welcome for our new students. I watched his glee as his program unfolded, and as our students were made to feel a part of this university. Ethan leaves a legacy that will never be forgotten.”

– William N. LaForge, president, Delta State University

“Dr. Schmidt was one of the most dynamic professors on our campus. He loved what he did and he loved our student-athletes. His excitement for our program was always evident and he will be missed.”

– Todd Cooley, head football coach, Delta State University

“One of my favorite quotes regarding education is from William Butler Yates, who once said that “education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.” Based on my interactions with Ethan, I can truly say that he took that quote to heart. Teaching for Ethan, was not simply a job, it was a calling. He loved lighting fires within his students by challenging them to think critically and communicate effectively.”

– Dr. Dave Breaux. Dean, Delta State University

“Dr. Schmidt is my favorite instructor at DSU. I have and will again recommend him to other students. I was never a ‘history person’ until I took his classes. He makes the material fun as if he was talking about friends to other friends, just casual conversation. And I’ve done really well in his courses, so he’s doing something right!”

– Student comment from a course evaluation, Delta State University

“In the summer of 2006, I was accepted into an intensive Japanese language program in Yokohama, Japan. I planned to stay an extra year for dissertation research. Ethan arranged a small going away dinner before I left and of course Connor and Liz were there. Toward the end Ethan and I were saying our goodbyes and he hugged me and began to sob softly. I remember Connor asked him, ‘Dad, why are you crying?’ and Ethan simply replied, ‘I’m not going to see my friend for a long time.’ It was a touching moment and, as I write this, one that brings me to tears. For as much as we loved Ethan as a friend, a colleague, or as a ‘brother,’ Ethan loved us back, and loved us fiercely. That kind of person does not come along very often.”

– John Schneiderwind, former colleague, University of Kansas Department of History

“Ethan was a dear friend and brother. I remember watching his relationship with Elizabeth grow. I remember when each of his children were born. Ethan loved being a father more than anything. Of all the awards, accolades and accomplishments, being a family man was one thing he held deep in his heart that fueled the fire in his soul. Everything else was just the icing on the cake.”

— Mike Allen, Kansas Epsilon alumnus

“Ethan was an everyman who did what a lot of us try to do. He contributed to the common good through his career, doted on his family, poured his passion into seemingly trivial but unifying things like sports, campuses, and hometowns. He was a supportive and accessible friend to so many. He did the things most of us do. But what made Ethan so remarkable was that he seemed to do them with a greater sense of goodness than most. The humanity he brought to the routine was, in part, what drew so many to him, and what I will miss seeing so dearly.”

– Brian Horn, Kansas Epsilon alumnus

“He was the best of us.”

– Excerpt of a social network comment

Much has been spoken, written and done in tribute. More will happen to honor the memory of Ethan Schmidt at both Delta State and Emporia State. What he transmitted in life cannot be taken back. Brother Ethan A. Schmidt’s legacy is indelible like his Bond number to be engraved in the granite of his marker back home in Peabody, Kansas. In coelo quies est.

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One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. –Bob Marley

One of the highlights of my position with Phi Delta Theta is the opportunity I have to communicate with alumni worldwide. Most of the calls are simple requests, like, ‘What is my Bond #?” “I’m calling to report a Chapter Grand. “We are planning a class reunion, would you please send me the latest alumni list?’

This morning I received such a call. Karen, our receptionist extraordinaire, put through an alumnus from Gettysburg College in Pennsylvania. A kind sir named “Pete White, class of ’59.” While he was on hold, waiting to be patched through to my line, he was being serenaded by our soundtrack of Phi songs, recorded long ago. The song playing was ‘Eternal Praise.’

Often, when I pick up calls, I will catch an alumnus that has been completely drawn back in and is singing all out along with the soundtrack. Though I didn’t catch Pete singing along, he shared a wonderful tale about how much the singing of Eternal Praise means to him.

He said that several years ago he learned that the art and practice of singing Phi Delta Theta songs had gone by the wayside at Gettysburg. He was dismayed. So rather than letting it go, he took action and began working with the new member class, encouraging them to learn the songs, particularly, Eternal Praise, his favorite. To his great pleasure, the new member class responded and they’ve been singing ever since.

But the endearing part of this story is this next part. His wife had a setback in 2013 when she broke her hip. He was spending hours at the hospital staying with her during her surgery and recovery. So he was surprised to get a text message from the Pennsylvania Beta Chapter. He scanned the message and saw a picture of the guys. Then he realized they had also sent a recording. He clicked to listen and he was delighted to hear the opening bars of Eternal Praise, being sung by the current PA Beta Phis, to encourage him during his wife’s tough times.

As he shared this story, he said this recollection still brings tears to his eyes. The simple act of teaching a song has gone on to be a steady encouragement to him, and he hopes, his chapter.

I must say that his story made my heart grow and I just knew that this was one of those moments that remind me that this Fraternity for whom I work daily, is a Fraternity for life. The heartbeat is its members, and the blood is the flow between alumni, undergraduates, volunteers and staff. I’ve been humming Eternal Praise since.

“Come, brothers, let us raise a toast,
To the pin we love the most;
To sword and shield we’ll loyal be,
In defeat or victory.
To our colors white and blue,
We will be forever true;
To Phi Delta we’ll always raise
Voices of Eternal Praise.”

To hear a rendition online, click here.

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We should all be quite familiar with the events of late December 1848 in Oxford, Ohio, whereby a group of like-minded young men gathered together to form a bond to perpetuate the memory of their friendship and a shared collegiate experience that they hoped would transcend the years. Their experience had been shaped in part by their shared history of dealing with hardships at the hands of the college’s administration and sometimes public opinion which had resulted in an “atmosphere [that] was gloomy and uncertain.” To all members who have accepted the precepts of The Bond of Phi Delta Theta, it seems only logical that these honorable young men would naturally have sought out and supported each other in the face of their shared adversity and devised a society to recall and keep alive their experiences with the generations that would follow in their footsteps. Their founding of Phi Delta Theta on 26 December 1848, gave birth to a Fraternity that has endured and prospered for 166 years and has touched the lives of over 250,000 young men.

Two generations before them, in 1783, the officers of the Continental Army found themselves in similar circumstances. The War for American Independence had persisted for eight long years and the hardships suffered by the army and its officers are well known. From the earliest days at Bunker Hill through to the surrender at Yorktown, the officers of the Continental Army had endured much and had received little in return. Even though their pay had at times been intermittent at best, the officer corps realized how much they had accomplished during the war and wanted to preserve the memory of the “vast event…[and]…the mutual friendships which…[were]…formed, under the pressure of common danger, and in many instances cemented by the blood of the parties.”

Phi Delta Theta and The Society of the Cincinnati both saw their genesis in times of great uncertainty and both sought to perpetuate the friendships, values and memories of the events born of those uncertainties. The Society of the Cincinnati is organized into constituent societies (chapters in the thirteen original states and France) and membership is held in the constituent society where your ancestor saw original military service or originally joined. Unlike Phi Delta Theta, membership in the society is inherited according to the rule of primogeniture (membership passes from father to eldest son) and in general only one descendant may hold hereditary membership in representation of the service of each propositus (ancestor). The Society of the Cincinnati, founded on 13 May 1783, has endured for 230 years with a current membership of over 4,000 men, living on six continents.

The Society of the Cincinnati and Phi Delta Theta also share common ground relative to geography. While there is no constituent society in the state of Ohio (the home of Miami University and the birthplace of Phi Delta Theta), the Society did play a major role in the early settlement of Ohio. Cincinnati began in 1788 as a settlement on the north shore of the Ohio River (opposite the mouth of the Licking River) and was initially named Losantiville. However in 1790, Major General Arthur St. Clair (an original member of The State Society of the Cincinnati of Pennsylvania) and the first governor of the Northwest Territory, changed the name to “Cincinnati” in honor of The Society of the Cincinnati. The Society takes its name from Lucius Quinctius Cincinnatus, the Roman general and dictator, who saved the city of Rome from destruction (in 458 BC and again in 439 BC) and then quietly retired to his farm. The Society honored the ideal of a return to civilian life by military officers following the War for American Independence rather than imposing military rule.

Major General Arthur St. Clair
Reproduced by permission of The Society of the Cincinnati, Washington, D.C.

To this day, Cincinnati in particular, and Ohio in general, is home to a disproportionately large number of descendants of Revolutionary War soldiers who were granted lands in the state as part of their pensions for service in the Continental Army. Additionally, nineteen of Ohio’s eighty-eight counties are named for Revolutionary War officers who were members of the Society of the Cincinnati or whose service qualified them for membership.

Like most fraternal organizations, Phi Delta Theta and the Society of the Cincinnati both have designated specific badges of membership to denote their members. To members of Phi Delta Theta, our badge (since 1849) with the familiar shield, enameled scroll being the Greek letters (ΦΔΘ), sword (added as early as 1866, but not formally adopted until 1871), and all-seeing eye readily denote the wearer as a brother in the Bond. So too with the order or badge (often referred to as an eagle) of the Society of the Cincinnati. The Institution of 1783 specifically calls for an order (or badge) of membership:

“The Society shall have an Order, by which its members shall be known and distinguished, which shall be a Medal of Gold, of a proper size to receive the emblems, and suspended by a deep blue ribbon two inches wide, edged with white, descriptive of the Union of France and America.

The principle figure Cincinnatus, three senators presenting him with a sword and other military ensigns. On a field in the back ground, his wife standing at the door of their cottage, near it a plough and instruments of husbandry, round the whole Omnia reliquit servare Rempublicam. On the reverse – Sun rising, a city with open gates, and vessels entering the Port. Fame crowning Cincinnatus with wreath inscribed Virtutis Praemium. below, Hands joined, supporting a heart, with the motto Esto Perpetua. round the whole, Societas Cincinnatorum, instituta AD. 1783.”

The general design for the order was prescribed by the Institution, but the actual eagle was designed by Major Pierre Charles L’Enfant, a Frenchman who also designed Washington, DC. The first Eagles were made in Paris in 1784 by Duval and Francastel, but later eagles were manufactured in the United States. Probably the most famous example of an eagle of the Society of the Cincinnati, is the eagle presented to General George Washington (he was serving as president general of the Society of the Cincinnati at the time) by the officers of the French Navy in 1784. This eagle is commonly referred to as the “Diamond Eagle” and has been passed down to and worn by each successive president general of the Society of the Cincinnati.

The Diamond Eagle
Reproduced by permission of The Society of the Cincinnati

Major L’Enfant was also the designer of the diploma of the Society of the Cincinnati which could be easily presented for viewing if certification of membership was required (transference of membership from one constituent society to another). The original certificates were counter signed by George Washington (president general) and Henry Knox (secretary general). Like membership certificates (shingles) in Phi Delta Theta, the diploma of the Society of the Cincinnati bears symbols and wording indicative of membership and bears the seal of the Society.

The diploma of the Society of the Cincinnati
Reproduced by permission of The Society of the Cincinnati

The deep feeling of connectedness that a brother of Phi Delta Theta feels towards the young men that shared his collegiate fraternal experience is also found amongst the members of the Society of the Cincinnati. In the Institution of the Society (which is the document [much like The Bond] upon which the Society’s founding and organization is based) this deep friendship is specifically addressed:

“To perpetuate therefore, as well the remembrance of this vast event, as the mutual friendships which have been formed under the pressure of common danger, and, in many instances, cemented by the blood of the parties, the Officers of the American Army do hereby, in the most solemn manner, associate, constitute, and combine themselves into one Society of Friends, to endure as long as they shall endure, or any of their eldest male posterity, and in failure thereof, the collateral branches, who may be judged worthy of becoming its supporters and members.”

In the years since the founding of the Society of the Cincinnati in 1783, and the birth of Phi Delta Theta in 1848, numerous men have enjoyed the privilege of being members of both organizations. Probably the most famous Phis to hold membership in the Society of the Cincinnati are President Benjamin Harrison (Miami, 1852), who was elected an honorary member of The State Society of the Cincinnati of Pennsylvania in 1889; The Honorable Frederick Moore Vinson (Centre, 1909), Chief Justice of the Supreme Court, who was elected to honorary membership in The Society of the Cincinnati in the State of Virginia in 1947; and The Honorable Samuel Augustus Nunn, Jr. (Georgia Tech, 1960), who was elected to honorary membership in The Society of the Cincinnati in the State of Georgia in 1985.

Benjamin Harrison
Reproduced by permission of The Society of the Cincinnati

Numerous other Phis have served in various leadership positions amongst the constituent societies. Most notable would be Bryan Scott Johnson (Clemson, 1981) who served as president of the Delaware State Society of the Cincinnati from 2008-2011 (Brother Johnson also currently chairs the History Committee of the General Society which oversees the annual George Rogers Clark lecture series), Francis Parker King, Jr. (UNC, 1974) who served as president of The North Carolina Society of the Cincinnati from 2009-2012, and Hollis Warren Merrick, III, M.D. (Syracuse, 1960) who served as president of Society of the Cincinnati in the State of New Hampshire from 2004-2007.

During my tenure as assistant secretary, vice president and president of the Delaware State Society of the Cincinnati, I often had occasions to write to our membership concerning fund raising and participation in various society events and annual giving drives. In doing so, I have time and time again referred to and paraphrased something that would be familiar to every Phi, our pledge oath. The pledge oath taken by every phikeia at the start of their journey to becoming a brother in Bond contains a phrase that is also very appropriate to the Society of the Cincinnati and illustrates the very core duty of members in both organizations:

“I will strive in all ways to transmit the Fraternity (Society) to those who may follow after, not only, not less, but greater than it was transmitted to me.”

In closing, I am very proud to be Phi and a member of the Society of the Cincinnati! Esto Perpetua!

Yours in the Bond,

Bryan Scott Johnson (Clemson, 1981)
South Carolina Gamma ‘243’

Author’s Note: The impetus for this article was the initial research by Ferdinand Henry “Tripp” Onnen, III (Washington and Lee, 2005) concerning Phis and Society of the Cincinnati at his alma mater. In doing additional research, I have reached out to other Phis known to me who are also members of the Society of the Cincinnati and utilized the wonderful staff and resources at GHQ, most notably Robert Allen “Bob” Biggs (Georgia Southern, 1976) and a member of The Society of the Cincinnati in the State of Virginia. My research has for the most part been limited to Phis of the twentieth and twenty-first centuries and the chart below represents my findings thus far. If anyone has knowledge of or suspects that other Phis have been members of the Society of the Cincinnati, please contact me directly (pomanob@aol.com) or through the general headquarters staff in Oxford, Ohio.

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Some of you may find a message directed to seniors a little odd. Seniors are typically put out to the big Greek pasture and many only return for formal. After three years of activity in the Fraternity, grades and internships take precedence, and the chapter is left to the sophomores and juniors who have yet to “do their time.” Often jaded and preoccupied, seniors tend to fade away into the post-grad sunset.

And I will admit, as a Fraternity we need to focus more on our seniors. We hold conferences for Emerging Leaders and Presidents, and build connections with alumni and universities. But seniors are left to themselves to skip chapter or, when they do attend, many times give the “back in my day” rant. At this point, little is expected of the seniors at all.

So why am I writing to our seniors? Because everything that we think about senior involvement is wrong.

When seniors go “Inactive”* or stop coming around, we lose our most valuable asset in the Fraternity, the experience and perspective of our oldest members. Seniors who “check out” rob the chapter of a vision and direction. More importantly, we lose our role models. For good and bad, seniors dictate the chapter’s attitude and behavior.

A great example comes not from the Fraternity world, but from college athletics. Although in this case, the two overlap. Our Virginia Gamma Chapter at Randolph-Macon College has many members on the R-MC football team. Each year, the seniors on the team choose that season’s theme, which is always in response to a shortcoming from the year before. This year’s theme was, “It’s Not About Me.” INAM was posted in lockers, on bedroom walls and on practice helmets. It was literally the first and last thing said that season. INAM bonded the team around one mission; it became their motivation and battle cry. The seniors at R-MC led the team with their attitudes and their actions.

A chapter’s attitude is more often referred to as its ‘culture.’ Seniors—how they treat chapter obligations or how they prioritize—dictate a chapter’s culture. And as a senior, you cannot escape this responsibility, for even your absence speaks volumes. Equally important are a senior’s actions. Seniors who do not put their own words into action will not only lose the respect of their brothers, but they will also cultivate a culture of glorified ineptitude in the chapter. We need seniors who are ready to own up to the responsibility of their role, ready to lead with their actions, not just their words.

Seniors, I challenge you to stay engaged. Hold a position (alumni secretary, Phikeia educator, awards chairman), attend chapter and fulfill your obligations to the Fraternity. Most importantly, help dictate the attitude and direction of the chapter, but please don’t forget to act upon your own words.

At General Headquarters, we have been working diligently to reengage our seniors and prepare them for alumni life. Phi Delt Weekends are networking events where you can interact with alumni and undergraduates from the region. Our Biennial Convention is this summer (June 19-22) in Las Vegas, where over 1,500 Phi Delts are expected to congregate. Both of these events are fantastic opportunities as you near graduation.

Seniors, we need you to lead. Will you answer the call?

*”Inactive” is not an official status. Refer to Article 147 in The Code for official membership standards.

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My introduction to Neil Alexander, Pittsburgh ’12, came through a random act of kindness, an act that very much reflects Neil’s character and approach to life. I was sitting on a Megabus, travelling from Des Moines, Iowa to Chicago, Illinois as part of an eight day, multi-city running trip to raise funds for Phi Delta Theta’s Iron Phi program.

That day, I received three donations to my effort from members of the Alexander family. I had never met them, but I was encouraged by the note they had left me—“Thank you for what you are doing.” By the end of the trip, I had learned more about Neil, his family and the battle they were facing, a battle with ALS. Two years later, I consider Neil Alexander one of the most positive influences in my life.

On a sunny Pittsburgh afternoon in June of 2011, Neil Alexander received the kind of news we all dread. The progressive muscle-twitching he had experienced for the previous 18 months was diagnosed as Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), the devastating and incurable condition better known as Lou Gehrig’s disease.

During the days that followed, as Neil struggled to process his doctor’s findings, he focused on his family—his wife, Suzanne, their daughter Abby, 11, and nine-year-old son, Patrick. Concern about their security when he was gone; thoughts of his wife with whom he now knew he would not grow old; children he would not see blossom into adulthood; future grandchildren he would never know.

But then Neil, 46, transformed the crushing news of his diagnosis into a courageous rallying call for fellow sufferers of the disease. He and Suzanne established a fund at The Pittsburgh Foundation, LiveLikeLou.org, to raise public awareness about ALS, to help finance critical medical research and to provide urgently-needed support for victims and their families in Western Pennsylvania.

As stated by Neil, “I decided not to spend my time being angry. We all live with limited time on this earth, and I am on the same journey that everyone is going to take at some point. Unlike most people, I am able to personalize my journey, and hopefully in the time I have left there is a lot we can do to help others.”

In addition to the great support that the Alexanders and LiveLikeLou. org have given to others who are affected by ALS in Western Pennsylvania, including grants that provide financial support to fund activities and programs for children of people diagnosed with the disease, Neil has helped Phi Delta Theta take its partnership with The ALS Association to new heights. He has also provided immeasurable inspiration along the way.

At the 2012 General Convention in Washington, D.C., Neil was initiated into Phi Delta Theta as a member of the Pennsylvania Iota (Pittsburgh) Chapter. The Phi Delta Theta community has embraced the Alexander family, and the Alexander family has embraced Phi Delta Theta.

In December of 2012, the Alexander family introduced a collection of LiveLikeLou scholarships eligible to Phi Delta Theta undergraduates whose lives have been affected by ALS. The first scholarship, a $1,500 amount that renews each year, was awarded to Phi David Martin, Creighton ’15, of Burlington, Wisconsin.

David is the second oldest of six children. His father, James Martin, 45, was diagnosed with ALS two and a half years ago and has had to retire from his occupation due to the illness.

Neil has also spent much time speaking to Phi Delta Theta undergraduates about the disease and was part of the Phi Delt presentation team this past summer in San Francisco, when Barry Zito of the Giants was given the Lou Gehrig Memorial Award.

“I am awestruck by Neil’s courage and character in fighting ALS head-on,” said Chris Brussalis, Member at Large of Phi Delta Theta’s General Council and board member for The ALS Association. “Because of men like Neil and Lou Gherig, Phi Delta Theta’s partnership with The ALS Association isn’t just a charity, it’s very personal for us. I am proud to call Neil my brother and to be a part of an organization that is so committed to fighting alongside him to beat this disease. Phi Delts across North America are raising hundreds of thousands of dollars each year to find a cure, and all 200,000 of our brothers will always have Neil’s back.”

Neil is a real-life Lou Gehrig. He embodies everything that Brother Gehrig stood for, and would be the first to tell you that he considers himself the luckiest man on the face of this earth. Neil’s appreciation for everything in life, no matter the circumstances, is contagious. His goal, “to leave ALS better than he found it,” is simply inspirational and parallels a pledge that all members of Phi Delta Theta have taken. Our Fraternity is a better organization because of the Alexanders, and many of our members would tell you that they are better men because of their relationship with Neil.

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